"Mr. Big" John James Preston "Mr. Big," portrayed by
Chris Noth, is Carrie Bradshaw's central love interest throughout
Sex and the City. They first meet in the pilot episode, and their relationship is defined by repeated cycles of attraction, commitment struggles, and breakups. Big is depicted as wealthy, charming, and emotionally reserved. In
Season 1, his reluctance to commit causes their first breakup. They reunite in
Season 2, but his decision to move to
Paris without consulting Carrie leads to another separation. Big later marries a younger woman, Natasha, which shocks Carrie given his prior aversion to marriage. Carrie and Big begin an affair during her relationship with Aidan Shaw, which ends after Natasha discovers them. Carrie and Big agree they are incompatible and attempt to remain friends. Big eventually moves to
Napa, California, but continues to call Carrie throughout the series. In
Season 6, following
heart surgery, he proposes they stop "playing games" and consider a future together. However, his continued emotional inconsistency prompts Carrie to distance herself. In the
series finale, Big follows Carrie to Paris, where they reconcile and he professes his love. Carrie returns to New York with him, and his real name—John—is revealed for the first time. In
Sex and the City (2008), the two plan a wedding after purchasing an apartment together. On the wedding day, Big experiences cold feet and fails to show up, prompting a temporary separation. They eventually reconcile and marry in a small civil ceremony. In
Sex and the City 2 (2010), the couple faces challenges in married life, including differing lifestyle preferences. Carrie kisses her former fiancé Aidan while abroad but later confesses, and she and Big renew their vows. He gives her a black diamond ring as a symbol of commitment. In
And Just Like That..., Big dies of a
heart attack in the series premiere. Carrie, devastated by his death, sells their apartment and later writes a book about grief.
Aidan Shaw Aidan Shaw, portrayed by
John Corbett, is a furniture designer and Carrie's boyfriend during
Seasons 3 and
4. Unlike Big, Aidan is emotionally open and ready to commit. He encourages Carrie to quit smoking, and their relationship becomes serious. It ends when Carrie confesses to an affair with Big. The two later reconcile, but tensions remain due to Carrie's continued contact with Big. Aidan proposes marriage, which Carrie accepts despite reservations. Her reluctance eventually ends the engagement. Aidan later marries someone else and has a child. In
Sex and the City 2, Carrie meets Aidan in
Abu Dhabi. They kiss despite both being married, but part ways afterward. In
And Just Like That..., now divorced and living in Virginia, Aidan rekindles his relationship with the widowed Carrie. He is unwilling to enter her old apartment due to painful memories, prompting her to buy a new one. Carrie and Aidan later carry on a long-distance relationship strained by Aidan's commitments to his teenage sons. After Carrie develops a friendship with her downstairs neighbor Duncan, Aidan admits he does not fully trust her because of her affair with Big during their first relationship, and they break up again.
Jack Berger Jack Berger, played by Ron Livingston, is a novelist Carrie meets through her publisher in
Season 5. Their relationship is marked by witty banter but is undermined by Berger’s insecurities, particularly regarding his own career setbacks in contrast to Carrie’s success. Their frequent arguments culminate in a breakup, which Berger initiates by leaving Carrie a
Post-it note reading, "I'm sorry. I can't. Don't hate me." Carrie reacts with anger and frustration, viewing the breakup as immature and disrespectful.
Aleksandr Petrovsky In
Season 6, Carrie begins a relationship with Aleksandr Petrovsky (portrayed by
Mikhail Baryshnikov), a wealthy and established Russian artist. Initially intended to be a
casual relationship, their connection deepens and the two begin dating exclusively. Aleksandr is portrayed as emotionally expressive and supportive, qualities that initially appeal to Carrie. However, he is also shown to be temperamental, withdrawing from Carrie and her friends during a period of creative pressure leading up to an art show. The relationship becomes more complicated when Aleksandr reveals that he has an adult daughter named Chloe and does not wish to become a parent again. Although Carrie remains uncertain about motherhood herself, she chooses to continue the relationship, and the two become more serious. Eventually, Aleksandr invites her to move with him to
Paris for his upcoming show. Carrie is conflicted about leaving New York, particularly after Miranda voices concerns about Aleksandr. Nevertheless, she decides to accompany him. Once in Paris, Carrie finds herself isolated and unfulfilled—she speaks little French and Aleksandr is frequently absent due to his professional commitments. Tensions escalate when he asks her to cancel a social engagement to support him at an early showing of his work, only to leave her alone upon arrival. Following an argument about their mismatched expectations, the two end their relationship. Carrie is later reunited with Mr. Big in Paris and returns with him to New York. ==Lovers==