In 82 or 81 BCE, Sulla and his wife
Metella persuaded Pompey to divorce Antistia in favour of Sulla's stepdaughter,
Aemilia. The reasons for the marriage are ambiguous, and perhaps mixed: Plutarch explains the marriage through Sulla's desire to reward Pompey for his successful service in the
civil war against the Marians during 83–82, and to make a marriage alliance with a capable man who could be of use to him. However, the marriage has also been characterised as Sulla's attempt to neutralise the potential threat of Pompey's popularity and growing power. Pompey, for his own part, considered himself a 'Sullan' for the remainder of the dictator's life, and for at least a decade after Sulla's death in 78 BCE; maintaining his connection to Sulla was an important factor in his own marriage to
Mucia Tertia in 79 BCE and that of his daughter
Pompeia Magna to the dictator's son
Faustus Cornelius Sulla. The divorce was criticised in Roman society, and seems to have been painful for Pompey: Plutarch writes that it 'befitted the needs of Sulla rather than the nature and habits of Pompey', in that Aemilia was already pregnant by her current husband, the future consul
Manius Acilius Glabrio, and was soon to die giving birth to his son. The remark may also allude to Pompey's passionate nature and, perhaps, his attachment to Antistia. For Antistia, the divorce was part of a period of great misfortune: her father had been killed in 82 BCE by Marian supporters, the so-called , during a senate-meeting at the
Curia Hostilia. The murder was instigated by the praetor
Junius Damasippus, who viewed Antistius as unreliable, despite his earlier co-operation, due to his marriage alliance with Pompey. Her mother, Calpurnia, had also killed herself upon hearing of the divorce, which Plutarch described as an "indignity". The damage to Pompey's reputation caused by the divorce has been cited as a contributing factor towards his cultivation of an alliance with
Marcus Aemilius Lepidus, the father of
the future triumvir, in 79 BCE. Little is known of Antistia's reaction to the divorce, or of her life afterwards. By Roman standards, the marriage was short: while approximately a third of known Roman marriages ended in divorce, they averaged around twenty-one years in duration, and most short marriages were ended by death. Both Plutarch and the modern scholar Thomas Hillman have described the marriage as a "
Greek tragedy". Antistia has been described as a "political victim", and the affair has taken as evidence of Roman women's lack of control over their marital lives, and the overarching importance of political concerns over personal in aristocratic Roman marriages. However, the parallels between Plutarch's account of Pompey's divorce from Antistia and his account of Caesar's refusal to divorce his own wife,
Cornelia, when ordered to do so by Sulla have led to the suggestion that the framing of the narrative as found in Plutarch may originate in anti-Pompeian propaganda written by Caesar's supporters after the outbreak of civil war between the two in 49 BCE. Susan Jacobs has also situated Plutarch's narrative of Antistia's marriage and divorce in a tradition of "advice literature" to statesmen, and viewed Plutarch's portrayal of the affair as a warning of how marriage alliances could serve both as political tools and as reputational risks. == Cultural depictions ==