At 16 years of age, Bender left her hometown to further her education. At 17, she first attempted to have her poetry published by submitting it at the local newspaper but got rejected. She then dabbled in acting but quickly realized it was not for her. She lived with a family of educators in
Mosbach, not far from her home town, and decided to study education. In 1886 she finished training as a private tutor. She then moved to
Heidelberg and made a living as a teacher and travel companion for foreigners, and soon was able to publish some of her poems. In 1871 she planned to move to the United States but got ill and was therefore unable to follow through. In 1873 she was very active in delivering public lectures around
Karlsruhe,
Stuttgart, and
Mannheim concerning women's rights. She was heavily involved in spreading the feminist movement. In 1891, Bender obtained a temporary position as an instructor at Smith College in Northampton,
Massachusetts. She eventually moved back to Germany to retire and devoted a majority of her time to writing. Bender conducted noteworthy research on German folk songs. Throughout her life she had written nursery rhymes, proverbs, poems and novels. ==Death==