The Heartbreak Kid (1972 film)

In New York City, emotionally shallow, self-absorbed sporting goods salesman named Lenny Cantrow finds himself in an awkward situation with a girlfriend named Lila Kolodny when he attempts to make love to her. Lila, an earnest young woman who expects long-term emotional commitment from Lenny, declares herself chaste until marriage. Stymied by her resistance, Lenny hastily weds her in a traditional Jewish ceremony and they head to Miami Beach for the honeymoon. Freed from the shackles of her abstinence, Lila becomes precocious which sets Lenny aback. Lenny makes love to her numerous times on the way down to Miami and finds himself repulsed and disappointed with his decision to marry. In Miami, Lenny is happy to go to the beach alone and meets Kelly Corcoran, a beautiful WASP college student on holiday with her wealthy parents. When Lila is severely sunburned, Lenny quarantines her to their hotel room while he engages in a series of contrived shenanigans to rendezvous with Kelly, lying to Lila about his whereabouts and making up outlandish stories to explain his disappearances. Lenny tells Kelly that she is the woman he has been "waiting for" all of his life, and that he just "timed it wrong". Over a period of three days, Lenny meets secretly with Kelly and inserts himself into her family vacation, much to the anger of Kelly's father Duane. To add to the absurdity, Lenny "lays his cards on the table" to Kelly's parents explaining his awkward situation and impulsively commits to ending his short-lived marriage to Lila and following Kelly back to the Midwest. Meanwhile, the youthful Kelly appears indifferent to the situation and finds herself amused by Lenny's increasingly desperate behavior. Later, Lenny takes Lila to an upscale seafood restaurant and decides to confess that the marriage is over and that he wants to "set her free." The tragic couple make a scene with Lila convulsing in sorrow. The scene switches to Lenny at the divorce lawyer's office as he signs away his remaining assets in order to start his new life with Kelly. The obsessive Lenny travels to Kelly's parents' home in Minnesota where he discovers that he is still in bad stead with Duane and Kelly is dating a college football star. Lenny, not swayed by the resistant situation, is able to talk to Kelly alone in his car where she confesses she didn't take him seriously in Miami but found him attractive. Ignorant of the problems her lack of seriousness has caused, Kelly agrees to let Lenny continue his courtship antics but the resentful and protective Duane stands in his way. As Kelly and her mother warm up to Lenny's personality and commitment, Duane takes him aside and tries to negotiate a bribe of $25,000. Lenny, committed to his objective, refuses all monetary gestures and eventually the two are married in a Christian church. At the reception, Lenny engages in mindless clichéd conversation with several of the guests discussing business opportunities in various dull ventures such as agriculture and tear gas manufacturing. He finds himself at the end rattling off these same tired themes to a pair of younger children who politely walk away, finding him a bore. Lenny, sitting alone, hums a song that he and Lila sang together on the way to Miami which portends him, yet again, losing interest in a relationship once he achieves his goal. ==Cast==

Producer Edgar Scherick was approached by Neil Simon who had read the story and wanted to adapt it into a film. The producer recalled "We made a deal for heavy bread, which almost committed you to make the picture. It was directed by Elaine May, who was talented but crazy in a wonderful way. I was the only producer who constrained her at all." ==Style==

The film is a black comedy, examining love and hypocrisy through a lens of pointed, subtle humor. Though it contains broad jokes, occasionally going for "laughs without shame", Elaine May is credited with emotionally grounding the film and providing "a real understanding of character" through eliciting the kind of "caustic, almost powerful humor that comes from moments of wincing recognition when human foibles are accurately captured and revealed". As another reviewer wrote in Sight & Sound, May's strength lies in her "obsessive and affectionate observations of character". May shared with her late comedy partner Mike Nichols (1931–2014) a sparse, dialogue-oriented style and a quizzical perspective. She places an emphasis on character comedy; The Hollywood Reporter commented on her stylistic decisions to derive humor "from situations rather than obvious one-line jokes" and make comedic choices which "flow effortlessly from rhythmic dialogue, explosions of laughter". The New Yorker's Pauline Kael wrote: "Elaine May has the rarest kind of comic gift: the ability to create a world seen comically". May's focus on comedic honesty, backlit by pain and misfortune, stylistically influenced a new generation of films. She helped push comedy into a "golden age as the result of the rise of the semi-surreal comedy of mishap, pain, insult, and desperation". == Themes ==

Love and Jewish identity The Heartbreak Kid is a particularly Jewish story, with The Village Voice calling it "the culminating work of Hollywood's Jewish new wave". All the filmmakers are Jewish: Bruce Jay Friedman, Neil Simon, May, producer Edgar J. Scherick and composers Burt Bacharach and Hal David. The story follows Lenny Cantrow (Charles Grodin), the embodiment of the Jewish archetype of the "schlemiel" (bungler), as he dumps Lila Kolodny (Jeannie Berlin), a "kvetchy Jew" and "sloppy, incipient yenta", for the girl of his dreams, all-American WASP Kelly Corcoran (Cybill Shepherd). The film is a deadpan fever dream of shiksa-chasing, taking place in what Bruce Jay Friedman dubs in the original short story "A Change of Plan" as the land of "strange blonde people". The character of Lila in particular has been labelled extremely stereotypical; Film Quarterly likened her to a female Portnoy from ''Portnoy's Complaint'', publishing a review stating: "Philip Roth's friendly anti-Semitism is strikingly similar to Friedman's". This is despite the intentions of Jeannie Berlin, who told The New York Times that she did her best to honor the character and give Lila depth: "You see, I didn't want to make that girl stupid. It would have been so easy to do Lila stupid. I don't think Lila was stupid. I think every single thing she did was justified to her... And she really was terrifically in love". For the role of Lila, Simon wanted Diane Keaton, but May thought the intended contrast between Jewish and gentile wouldn't be strong enough. Lenny's behavior as a classic nebbish Jew is thoughtless, as he leaves Lila high and dry on their honeymoon. Charles Grodin said afterwards that although he played the character with full sincerity, he had "pretty much indelibly stamped [himself] into the moviegoing public's consciousness as a jerk". Still, he said, many viewers misread the film as an illustration of precisely Jewish annoyances, and not as critique: "The number of men who tell me how much they loved the movie and how much they identified with the character, while flattering, is also somewhat frightening". The final moments of the film depict Lenny failing to communicate with Kelly's gentile family. It highlights how he gave up his personal cultural traditions, and how he misses them. Having walked down the aisle to Kelly as a large cross hung overhead, Lenny sits on the couch by himself, swimming in a sea of midwestern Christianity, as listless and alienated as ever. ==Reception==

The film has received almost universal praise from critics. As of 2024, the film had an approval rating of 92% at review aggregator Rotten Tomatoes based on 60 reviews, with an average score of 7.60/10. The website's critical consensus reads: "An uproariously funny confluence of top-shelf talent, The Heartbreak Kid finds bittersweet humor in attitudes toward love and marriage in early '70s America." On Metacritic, the film has a weighted average score of 74 out of 100, based on 12 critics, indicating "generally favorable reviews". Vincent Canby of The New York Times declared it to be "a first-class American comedy, as startling in its way as was The Graduate". Roger Ebert of the Chicago Sun-Times gave the film 3.5 stars out of 4 in a review that concludes: "It's a comedy, but there's more in it than that; it's a movie about the ways we pursue, possess, and consume each other as sad commodities". Gene Siskel of the Chicago Tribune awarded the same 3.5/4 grade and wrote that "the heavy-handed comedy undermines the serious aspect of the movie—we really can't believe that Lenny would marry her in the first place. The overall high quality of the acting, however, does sustain the film". Variety called it a "bright, amusing saga" until the "audience is jolted by a sudden shut-off ending with no climax whatsoever". Charles Champlin of the Los Angeles Times wrote that Grodin and Berlin "bring off hugely difficult comedy assignment with great style. Amidst increasing farcical events, they both somehow manage to preserve a sense of credible, foolish but sympathetic individuals lurking beneath the follies". The Washington Post thought that the film "has its faults, but it's also one of the most entertaining and original American film comedies of the last few years". The Independent Film Journal called it an "unquestionably brilliant comedy". Variety noted in its review that the sudden ending of the film might have been indicative of another ending that had been planned, and later noted that Fox handed out a synopsis at screenings including an ending where "as they sail for Europe on their honeymoon, Lenny makes some startling discoveries about Kelly - and The Heartbreak Kid comes to its bitingly funny end". ==Accolades==

American Film Institute In 2000, the film was ranked 91st in the American Film Institute's 100 Years...100 Laughs list. ==Home media==

Although released on DVD in 1998 and in 2002, the film currently (as of 2025) is out of print. Rare 35mm prints held by the Academy Film Archive and the BFI National Archive have screened in select locations trusted and insured to handle such prints, including Metrograph and the Museum of the Moving Image in New York City in 2024 and 2025 and the Music Box Theatre in Chicago, Illinois in 2024. Bristol Myers Squibb (Palomar Pictures International) owns the rights to The Heartbreak Kid (1972) and Sleuth (1972). ==Remake==

A remake of the film was released in 2007, which was directed by the Farrelly Brothers and stars Ben Stiller, Michelle Monaghan, Malin Åkerman, Jerry Stiller, Rob Corddry, Carlos Mencia, Scott Wilson and Danny McBride. ==See also==