Hay was born on October 22, 1951, in
Owen Sound,
Ontario. She is the daughter of a high school principal and a painter. She spent a year in England when she was fifteen and later attended the
University of Toronto. In September, 1972, she quit university and a few months later travelled out west by train. The following year she returned to Toronto and finished her degree in English and Philosophy. In 1974 she moved to
Yellowknife, NWT. She worked for ten years as a
CBC radio broadcaster in
Yellowknife,
Winnipeg and
Toronto and then moved to
Mexico, where she freelanced for the CBC. In 1986 she settled in
New York City, and then returned to Canada in 1992 with her family. She lives in
Ottawa with her husband
Mark Fried, a literary translator. She has two children. ==Critical reputation and style==