His father, Riccardo Carafa, was the Duke of Andria; his mother,
Margherita Pignatelli, was the sister of the Vicar General, Francesco Pignatelli. Ettore had three brothers: Francesco, Fabrizio, and Carlo. He had three sisters: Maria Giuseppa married to the Duke of Sangro, lieutenant general to the King; Maria Luisa married to Baldassarre
Caracciolo, Duke of Casteldisangro; and another married to the Duke of Altemps. The
house of Carafa had long been a prestigious noble family, which included an ancestor as
Pope Paul IV. The Duke and Duchess had
offices in the Court and were very loyal and faithful to the Bourbons; the Duchess and the daughters were considered pious, religious, and of strict morals. Ettore and his brothers, unlike his parents, were attracted by the revolutionary fervor emanating from France. In 1787–1788, Ettore had secretly traveled to Paris with his tutor Franco Laghezza of
Trani, where he became enamored with
Jacobin ideas. After returning to Naples, there was an incident wherein Ettore had appeared wearing a color emblematic of the revolution, in the form of a scarlet waistcoat, at the Fiorentini theater; this prompted a complaint by the Queen made to his mother, the Duchess of Andria. He was already under suspicion for being a leader of a movement that translated into Italian the 1789
Declaration of the Rights of Man and of the Citizen, and distributed the copies throughout Naples. On 23 June 1794 Ettore's father, the Duke, died. As the eldest son, he would to inherit his father's appointment to the
Order of San Gennaro. However, due to his anti-monarchical idealism, he refused to receive the honors of his father from the royal court. After an angry debate with his mother, he entered to the church of
San Severino e Sossio, where he proceeded to blacken the
escutcheon on the tomb of his venerable ancestor Carafa, who had been grand prior of the order of Malta. By August he was arrested while making a trip outside the city. With the help of his brother Carlo Carafa, the castle commander
Guglielmo Pepe, and large bribes, he was soon able to escape from
Castel Sant'Elmo, and flee to the
Cisalpine Republic that had been established in Milan. In January 1799, he joined the French-Italian army of
General Championnet that invaded Naples, and forced the frightened King to flee to Sicily, and leave Ettore's uncle as Vicar General in the city. In Naples, the
Parthenopean Republic was founded, and soon the young Ettore received the command of a Republican Legion. One anecdote about Ettore's brother, Carlo, is that he was ordered by the Neapolitan Directory to proceed to Rome to levy soldiers to fight under Ettore in
Abruzzo. Carlo approached his mother, the Duchess, to ask for funds for the trip and effort. The Duchess was living with her daughters in the
Palazzo Vargas-Macciucca in
Portici, since their palace in Naples had been burned and looted by the mob in January 1799. The Duchess supposedly angrily replied that she would give no money for such a purpose, but then
dropped the keys to the money-chest, allowing Carlo to take the money she would not
give. Another brother, Francesco also fought with the Republican forces. On 13 June 1799, during the battle at the Ponte della Maddalena in Naples, he fell into a ditch, was seized and recognized by a Sanfedista from Andria, brought before
Cardinal Ruffo, who jailed him at
Castel Nuovo, from which he emerged after the Peace of Florence. Ettore traveled to Puglia with
General Duhesme. There they besieged
San Severo, which after a violent assault, quickly fell. Then Ettore moved south to
Andria with
General Broussier and alongside his former jailer Guglielmo Pepe, where he thought his birthplace and the feud of his family ties would welcome him. However, the feudal lord who circled the walls of the city, trying to convince those inside that the republic aimed to abolish feudal status, was fired upon by his fellow Andrians atop the walls. A siege followed, featuring French artillery forced the city to surrender, and much of Andria was burned and sacked. For his next mission, Ettore was sent north to defend Pescara, but under nebulous circumstances, he was arrested by the pro-monarchical forces. Ettore was moved to Naples, which had fallen to the
Sanfedisti forces of Cardinal Ruffo. His last days were sordid, but he apparently still demonstrated valor to the end. He was taken to Naples and kept under guard with an iron cage around his neck for several days, which prevented sleep; ragged and with a long beard, he was brought to the
Public Marketplace to be beheaded. On 24 September 1799 his remains were buried in the Church of Santa Caterina near the
Carmine Maggiore. ==Legacy==