In 1794, the Empress began to think about the future of the Grand Duchess. Alexandra Pavlovna was eleven years old, and "that summer a girl should be considered an adult." In the letters of those years Catherine II expresses the idea of bringing to Russia "landless princes", who after marrying her granddaughters would get the position and means for life in their new homeland. But the fate of Alexandra turned out differently. In 1792, news arrived at the Russian court regarding the murder of King
Gustav III of Sweden (who was the Empress' first-cousin) and the accession to the throne of his 14-year-old son
Gustav IV Adolf. Reportedly, the desire of the late Swedish monarch was to make an alliance with the Russian Imperial family by marrying his only son to one of the granddaughters of the Empress; however, according to another version, the idea of marriage belonged to the Empress, and even became one of the secret conditions of the
Treaty of Värälä. The idea of this alliance was supported by the Swedish regent, the new King's uncle
Charles, Duke of Södermanland. In October 1793, on the occasion of the marriage of the Grand Duke
Alexander Pavlovich with
Princess Louise of Baden, Count Stenbock arrived in St. Petersburg with congratulations from the Swedish court, and started the official talks about marriage. Alexandra began to learn the Swedish language, as well as to prepare to think about her future husband. Negotiations went with varying success. In January 1794, Catherine II wrote to her first-cousin, the Duke of Södermanland: But on two issues the parties could not reach an agreement: The religion of the future Queen and the fate of Count
Gustaf Mauritz Armfelt, member of the conspiracy against the Swedish regent, who took refuge in Russia. In retaliation, the regent began to negotiate a marriage between Gustav IV Adolf and
Duchess Louise Charlotte of Mecklenburg-Schwerin. Pretending to ignore the machinations of the Swedish regent, the Empress wrote in April 1795 to Baron von Grimm: On 1 November 1795 the Swedish court officially announced the engagement between Gustav IV Adolf and
Duchess Louise Charlotte of Mecklenburg-Schwerin, and in the official church prayer in Sweden the intended bride began to be mentioned. Catherine II stood to protect her granddaughter: But the Empress was not limited to just words: she refused to accept the ambassador who came with the message of the engagement's announcement. Count
Alexander Suvorov was sent to the Swedish border for "exploring the castles", and in Stockholm Major General Count
Andrei Budberg was instructed to prevent the marriage. While the Swedish court was waiting for the arrival of the bride, the King suddenly changed his mind and broke off the engagement. In April 1796, talks about the "Russian marriage" were resumed by Catherine II, who invited Gustav IV Adolf to visit her in St. Petersburg. Gustav IV Adolf and his uncle the Duke of Södermanland arrived incognito for a meeting with the bride. A series of brilliant parties were arranged in their honor. The Swedish sovereign and Alexandra fell in love at first sight. The passion of Gustav IV Adolf for the Grand Duchess was evident: he danced with her constantly and had intimate conversations with her. On 25 August 1796, Gustav IV Adolf asked the Empress for permission to marry the Grand Duchess. The negotiations with Sweden were led by Counts
Platon Zubov and
Arkady Morkov. However, they were concerned with the question of the faith of the future Queen. The procurator-general
Alexander Samoylov wrote: Only on 2 September Gustav IV Adolf agreed that Alexandra would keep her
Eastern Orthodox faith. Four days later, on 6 September, the Swedish embassy formally requested the hand of the Grand Duchess. The groom and the bride's father visited some military maneuvers, and poet
Gavrila Derzhavin wrote a "
Concert for the engagement of the King of Sweden with Grand Duchess Alexandra Pavlovna". The official engagement was scheduled to take place on 11 September in the Throne Room of the
Winter Palace. However, when Counts Zubov and Morkov were to sign the marriage contract in the morning of that day, they found that there was no article about the freedom of religion of the Grand Duchess, which was erased by order of the king. Despite the pleas of the Russian envoys, the King was firm that he would never give his people an Orthodox queen, and locked himself in his room. The Empress, her court and Alexandra, who was dressed as a bride, waited for him for more than four hours. Following the announcement of the final rejection of the king, the Empress had a small attack of apoplexy, and a grief-stricken Alexandra, in tears, locked herself in her room; the Swedish embassy declared that the engagement was canceled due to illness of the King. On 12 September Gustav IV Adolf was present at the ball on the occasion of the birthday of Grand Duchess
Anna Feodorovna (born Princess Juliane of Saxe-Coburg-Saalfeld), wife of Grand Duke
Konstantin Pavlovich, but he was given a cold reception. Alexandra wasn't present at the ball, and the Empress had spent a little more than 15 minutes there, citing illness. Although the engagement didn't take place, talks about a marriage continued for a while. On 22 September 1796 the Swedish King had left Russia, with the Empress warning her son: "They're just your sons and their wives, but your four daughters should all be ill with colds." Catherine II died two months later, on 17 November, and the marriage negotiations were continued by Alexandra Pavlovna's father and new Emperor
Paul I of Russia. But in spite of all attempts, the main issue, the religion of the Grand Duchess, was not settled, and the marriage negotiations were finally stopped. Soon, the Imperial family suffered another blow. In October 1797 Gustav IV Adolf married Princess
Frederica of Baden, a younger sister of Grand Duchess Elizabeth Alexeievna, Alexandra's sister-in-law. Empress
Maria Feodorovna blamed both her daughter-in-law for intriguing in favor of her sister and her husband the Emperor for "allowing himself these sharp and biting antics against her daughter". ==Marriage==