Born in
East Melbourne, Victoria, Australia, into a prosperous family that later fell on hard times, Ethel Florence (who preferred to answer to Et, Ettie or Etta) was the elder daughter of Walter Lindesay Richardson MD (c. 1826–1879) and his wife Mary (née Bailey). The family lived in various towns across Victoria during Richardson's childhood and youth. These included
Chiltern,
Queenscliff,
Koroit and
Maldon, where Richardson's mother was postmistress (her father having died when she was nine of
syphilis). The Richardsons' home in Chiltern, "Lake View", is now owned by the National Trust and open to visitors. Richardson left Maldon to become a boarder at
Presbyterian Ladies' College (PLC) in Melbourne in 1883 and attended from the ages of 13 to 17. This experience was the basis for
The Getting of Wisdom, a
coming-of-age novel admired by
H. G. Wells. At PLC she started to develop her ability to credibly mix fact with fiction, a skill she used to advantage in her novels. Her younger brother was educated at
Trinity College, Melbourne. Richardson experienced
lesbian desire throughout her life. At the Presbyterian Ladies' College, she fell in love with an older schoolgirl; the feelings of adolescent females awakening to their sexuality were reflected in
The Getting of Wisdom. After her mother's death, she fell passionately in love with the Italian actress
Eleonora Duse, but had to be content to love her from a distance. Her friend Olga Roncoroni, who had lived in the Robertson household for many years, filled the gap left by the death of her husband. Richardson was godmother to Humphrey, son of the singer
Sophie Wyss. His godfather was
Benjamin Britten. Richardson died of cancer on 20 March 1946 in
Hastings,
East Sussex, England. Her cremated remains were scattered by her wish with her husband's at sea.
Iris Murdoch is her second cousin twice removed. == Family ==