In 1842, Wheeler married Frances Matilda, daughter of Frederick Marsden, an officer in the East India Company Army, and an Indian woman. Her uncle was the linguist
William Marsden. They had nine children (seven sons and two daughters), seven of them born before their marriage in 1842 and two afterwards. Wheeler also had a son from a previous relationship; Frances had two sons by her first husband, Thomas Samuel Oliver, who was killed in the
First Afghan War in 1841. All the sons of Hugh and Frances Wheeler, except one, joined the
Bengal Army or the
British Indian Army, four of them attaining the rank of general. One, George, married his cousin Margaret Alicia Massy; their son
George Godfrey Massy Wheeler was awarded the
Victoria Cross in 1915. Frances Wheeler, son Godfrey and two daughters were with Wheeler at Cawnpore in May 1857. Godfrey was killed in the entrenchment; Frances and the elder daughter, Eliza, were killed with Wheeler at the Satichaura Ghat. The memorial tablets in All Souls Church, Kanpur, includes the following inscription: "Sir H. Wheeler, K. C. B.; Lady Wheeler and daughters; Lieutenant G. R. Wheeler, 1st N. I., A.-D.-C. " Wheeler's younger daughter, Margaret, also known as Ulrica, survived after having been carried off from the Satichaura Ghat by a sowar. At the time, a story circulated that she had killed the sower and several members of his family and committed suicide to preserve her honour; this was used as propaganda in the British press.
G. O. Trevelyan advanced another theory in 1866, writing that the rumour of suicide had been started by the sowar himself and that Margaret had died a natural death in
Nepal after being taken from camping-ground to camping-ground by her captors. Another account relates that, fifty years after the mutiny, a missionary doctor and Roman Catholic priest were called upon to attend a dying woman, who, "speaking cultured English", claimed to be Miss Wheeler and to have married the Indian who saved her life. == References ==