, at
Nancy Cunard's
fancy dress party, Paris, 1925; photograph by
Berenice Abbott. In 1918, Flanner married William "Lane" Rehm, a friend she had met while at the
University of Chicago. He was working as an artist in New York City, and she later admitted that she married him to get out of Indianapolis. The marriage lasted for only a few years and they divorced amicably in 1926. Rehm was supportive of Flanner's career until his death. In 1918, the same year she married her husband, she met
Solita Solano in
Greenwich Village. The two women became lifelong lovers, although both also became involved with other lovers throughout their relationship. Solano was drama editor for the
New-York Tribune, and also wrote for
National Geographic. In 1932 Flanner fell in love with
Noël Haskins Murphy, an American singer who lived in a village just outside Paris. They had a short-lived romance. This did not affect her relationship with Solano. Flanner lived in Paris with Solano, who put away her own literary aspirations to be Flanner's personal secretary. They lived together for more than 50 years, but their relationship was not
monogamous. In 1940, Flanner met
Natalia Danesi Murray; their romance lasted until Flanner's death in 1978, though Flanner always had several relationships at a time. "You complain that I have three wives and the truth is, as you know, that I also have a husband,
The New Yorker," Flanner once wrote to Murray. Flanner frequently visited Los Angeles, where her mother Mary Flanner lived at 530 East Marigold St. in
Altadena with her sister, poet
Hildegarde Flanner, and brother-in-law,
Frederick Monhoff. Flanner was a
chain smoker. In 1975, she returned to New York City permanently, to be cared for by Murray. Flanner died on November 7, 1978. She was
cremated. Her ashes were scattered along with Murray's over
Cherry Grove in
Fire Island where the two women had met in 1940, according to
William Murray, Danesi Murray's son, in his book
Janet, My Mother, and Me (2000). == In popular culture ==