Eliza Ridgely was an heiress who became a foreign traveler and an arbiter of fashion. She met and befriended the
Marquis de Lafayette during his
United States tour of 1824–1825 and stayed in contact with him for the rest of his life.
Personal life On January 8, 1828, Eliza Ridgely married John Carnan Ridgely. He was the son of
Charles Carnan Ridgely who served as
Governor of the state of
Maryland from 1815 to 1818. Her husband was the grandson of John Carnan and Achsah (née Ridgely) Carnan. John's great-uncle and Achsah's brother,
Charles Ridgely III, was the builder of the
Hampton plantation which was built in 1790 and had been the largest private residence in the United States. He was childless and as he approached the end of his life, willed that his sister's progeny should take the Ridgely name and in doing, would inherit his vast estates. Thus, John Carnan Ridgely was, in fact, a fifth cousin of his wife, Eliza Eichelberger Ridgely. When her husband's father died in July 1829, his estate of some was divided, her husband John inherited the main house and . • Priscilla Ridgely (b. 1831) • Nicholas Greenbury Ridgely (b. 1834) • Charles Ridgely (1838–1872), who married Margaretta Sophia Howard (1824–1904) in 1851. • Julia Maria Ridgely (b. 1841) Eliza Ridgely had a serious approach to financial affairs. The daughter of a merchant, she had married into a family which recorded the smallest transaction, and she kept careful accounts of all her expenditure, even noting the nine and a half cents she paid for a piece of ribbon. As well as her personal spending, her accounts also show her expenses in ensuring that the Hampton slaves were clothed and shod, a major undertaking. She also recorded her subscriptions, such as those to the Baltimore Humane Impartial Society from 1849 to 1854 and her donations to a Widows Asylum between 1849 and 1851. Eliza Ridgely ordered church services for her slaves in the attic of the Hampton carriage house. The services were taken by a white minister, Mr Galbraith, until he was dismissed for marrying a woman believed to have African blood. Ridgely herself oversaw funerals and weddings in the house's great hall. One of Ridgely's grandsons, the diplomat Henry White, recalled that she "was very particular in having what she was pleased to describe (and which I then believed to be) 'marriages', performed by a clergyman, between the negro servants, when so inclined: not realizing – certainly I did not at the time – that slaves were unable to perform any civil act, being mere chattels". Ridgely's daughter Eliza recorded having taught a group of slave children the
Lord's Prayer. She is said to have brought this herself as a seedling from Europe, carrying it in a shoebox. In 1839, the
landscape gardener Henry Winthrop Sargent found that Hampton's venerable appearance and foreign air "...quite disturb one's ideas of republican America". ==
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