Childhood in Maine Lillian, known as "Marilla" in childhood, was the fourth of six children born in Dover, Maine to Nathaniel Ames and Nancy Fowler Parsons Ames. Two of her older siblings died in infancy, leaving one boy and three girls. Her father was a teacher, Her mother died when Lillian was 14. In January 1859 her father married Frances L. Bragdon, a resident of
Cape Elizabeth. Lillian's new home provided easy access to the
Westbrook Seminary, which she entered for the spring term two months later.
Education and career Lillian Ames was 16 years old when her father died of
consumption. At about that time she began to teach school. She was hired at the Spruce Street School outside Portland, and then by the Stroudwater School. Lillian Ames was said to be one of the earliest Maine women to continue teaching during a winter season, customarily restricted to male teachers. she decided to marry, a status in those days judged incompatible with a woman's teaching. In 1911 she was awarded an honorary degree of
A.M. from
Bates College.
Marriage and family Lillian Ames married Michael Stevens of
Portland, Maine, on October 17, 1865, at
Meadville, Pennsylvania. Michael Stevens was about 10 years older than Lillian and was a salt and grain wholesaler. He had been raised in a large brick home in
Stroudwater, built in 1803 by his father, Tristram Stevens, In Lillian Steven's later work, Michael Stevens became a partner and ally, described as "ready to sympathize with the ideas of social reform" and to support "her ideas regarding the extension of the suffrage to women." In 1899, he was given honorary life membership in the Maine W.C.T.U. == The temperance movement ==