Matilda, or Maud, was the daughter of
Baldwin V, Count of Flanders, and
Adela, herself daughter of King
Robert II of France.
Prior to the marriage Accounts suggest that the marriage took some time to arrange.
William's status According to legend, when the Norman duke
William the Bastard (later called
the Conqueror) sent his representative to ask for Matilda's hand in marriage, she told the representative that she was far too high-born to consider marrying a
bastard.
William's violence After hearing this response, William rode from Normandy to
Bruges, forced himself into her bedroom and soundly beat her. Another version has the illegitimate duke dragging her from her horse and pursuing his rough courtship in the roadside mud. Naturally, Baldwin took offence at this; but before they could
draw swords, Matilda settled the matter by refusing to marry anyone but William. Historians have regarded the tale as more fictional than historical; the marriage itself may in fact have been arranged by William and Baldwin, as both would have welcomed an alliance between Flanders and Normandy.
Consanguinity William and Matilda were married after a delay in , despite a papal ban by
Pope Leo IX at the
Council of Reims on the grounds of
consanguinity. A papal
dispensation was finally awarded in 1059 by
Pope Nicholas II. Lanfranc, at the time prior of
Bec Abbey, negotiated the arrangement in Rome, and it came only after William and Matilda agreed to found two churches as penance: the
Abbaye aux Hommes and the
Abbaye aux Dames. According to some more romantic tellings of the story, she initially refused his proposal on this account. Like many royal marriages of the period, it breached the rules of
consanguinity, then at their most restrictive (to seven generations or degrees of relatedness); Matilda and William were third cousins once removed.
Married in 1051/2 Matilda was about 20 when they married in 1051/2; William was some four years older, and had been
Duke of Normandy since he was about eight (in 1035). The marriage was by all accounts very happy and fruitful. Matilda bore her husband at least nine children in a period of twenty years, and most contemporaries believed that William was never unfaithful to her. When William embarked on the
Norman Conquest of England, he sailed in his flagship
Mora, which Matilda had given him. She governed the
Duchy of Normandy in his absence, joining him in England after more than a year, to be crowned in an elaborate ceremony. She subsequently returned to Normandy, but crossed to England repeatedly, and ruled England in William's absence between the years 1081 and 1083. Matilda also regularly served as regent in
Normandy. She was about 52 when she died in Normandy in 1083. Apart from governing Normandy and supporting her brother's interests in Flanders, Matilda took a close interest in the education of her children, who were unusually well educated for contemporary royalty. The boys were tutored by the Italian
Lanfranc, who was made
Archbishop of Canterbury in 1070, while the girls learned Latin in
Sainte-Trinité Abbey in
Caen, founded by William and Matilda as part of the papal
dispensation allowing their marriage. ==Duchess of Normandy==