At the age of 13, Nellie moved into the White House, after her father was elected to the Presidency in 1868. Grant was a successful Union War general and Commanding General of the U.S. Army during the
Reconstruction Era. Nellie shared the national popularity of her father President Grant. The nation was fascinated by Nellie, as she was the first teenage girl in the White House since Abby Fillmore. Because she was their only daughter, with three brothers, the Grants sent Nellie to
Miss Porter's School, an elite boarding school for girls in Connecticut. The situation did not last long after Nellie sent three distressing telegrams to Grant, who relented, and sent an escort to bring Nellie back to the White House. Washington society was shocked when Nellie danced through the night at a society ball. President Grant, her father, however, did not rebuke her. When Nellie turned 16, President Grant was concerned when there were many young suitors who pursued his only daughter. To keep Nellie out of the limelight, Grant sent her on a trip abroad to England surrounded by trusted chaperones. In England, Nellie was received by
Queen Victoria and she attended many garden parties. Victoria described Nellie as "rather stiff and off hand in her manner and spoke with a great twang." On the voyage home she met her future husband Algernon Charles Frederick Sartoris, an Englishman of "minor gentry", and potential heir to his family's fortune. Sartoris's mother was
Adelaide Kemble, a former opera singer, and sister of the famous actress
Fanny Kemble. Sartoris's father
Edward was a member of Parliament and served as a British European court minister. Grant had initially opposed Sartoris's courtship and engagement to his daughter, having learned from his parents that he was a "drinker". Grant, himself, had a reputation of drinking and had battled rumors of
alcoholism throughout his life. Grant also did not want his daughter to live in England. When Grant invited Sartoris to the White House to play billiards, Sartoris told Grant he wanted to marry Nellie. Both Julia and President Grant had the premonition that there was something not quite right with Sartoris. Grant finally relented and on July 7, 1873, writing to Sartoris's father, he gave his daughter permission to marry Sartoris on condition that they wait at least a year. Grant was concerned about Sartoris not having permanent employment and that he would have to support Nellie on his presidential salary.
Wedding At the age of 18, Nellie and 23-year-old Algernon were married in a lavish wedding held at the
White House on May 21, 1874. The interior of the White House, including the walls, staircases, and chandeliers were covered with lilies, tuberoses, and spirea. Orange blossoms from Florida had been crated up and sent North to the White House. The bride Nellie was described as "probably the most attractive of all the young woman who have ever lived in the White House." The Marine Band played
Mendelssohn's Wedding March, while President Grant escorted Nellie to the East Room, filled with 250 guests. Nellie's wedding dress, trimmed in Brussel pointed lace, was reportedly worth thousands of dollars. After the wedding, the newlywed couple traveled on a special train to New York in a Pullman palace car, especially made for the Vienna Exposition, covered by British and American flags. The following day Nellie and Sartoris sailed for England. After the wedding, President Grant went to his daughter's bedroom and sobbed uncontrollably. One historian, a hundred years later, said Nellie had been "sold at a low price." == Marriages and family ==