The same year that she was ordained, Hanaford separated from her husband, though they never officially divorced, and took her children with her. She began living with a woman named Ellen Miles, a situation that caused controversy in her first
New Jersey congregation, which referred to Miles as the "minister's wife". There was resentment over Miles assisting Hanaford in certain official duties, including philanthropic disbursements. Church officials first tried to pressure Hanaford to leave by threatening a salary cut from $2500 to $1500. When Hanaford accepted the cut, church officials then demanded that Hanaford dismiss Miles. When Hanaford refused, the congregation voted not to renew Hanaford's contract. Hanaford then left to start the Second Universalist Church, where Ellen Miles ran the Sunday School. Although the nature of Hanaford's relationship with Miles is uncertain, their letters testify to a "deep friendship". They remained together for 44 years until Miles' death in 1914. ==Books==