Phyllis Barbara Pray was born on December 2, 1920, in
Portland,
Maine, to parents Lea Arlene (née Royer) and Melvin Francis Pray who were of
French-Canadian ancestry. She attended
Cape Elizabeth High School, graduating in 1937. Phyllis Pray and
Harry Bober married in 1943, he was a
medievalist student in her graduate school. In 1946, Bober completed her Ph.D. in
Archaeology at New York University Institute of Fine Arts. After graduation she travelled with Harry Bober to Europe for the first time, visiting
France,
Belgium, and
London. == Career ==