While the motivations for manipulation are mostly
self-serving, certain styles of social influence can be intended to be to the benefit of others. Manipulative behavior is fundamentally deliberate and
intentional, with the manipulator knowing full well the consequences of their actions, and what they want out of the person being manipulated. Different measures of manipulativeness focus on different aspects or expressions of manipulation and tend to paint slightly different pictures of its predictors. Features such as low
empathy, high
narcissism, use of self-serving rationalizations, and an interpersonal style marked by high agency (dominance) and low communion (i.e. cold-heartedness) are consistent across measures. A study by
Buss, et al. explored how individuals use manipulation to shape their environments to fit their personal characteristics. Across two studies, researchers identified six main manipulation tactics: charm,
silent treatment,
coercion, reason, regression, and debasement. These tactics were consistent across different situations, with charm commonly used to initiate behavior and coercion or silent treatment used to stop it. The use of these tactics was linked to personality traits such as
Neuroticism,
Extraversion, and
Agreeableness, and was consistent across self-reports and observer ratings. Another paper investigated the link between one's personality and social processes, and it concluded that "persons are not passive recipients of environmental presses" and that "persons actively avoid some social situations and selectively enter others", and that people "elicit and manipulate the social behavior of persons who reside in situations that have been selected." Another study by Buss aimed to achieve three primary objectives, to identify the manipulation tactics commonly employed in close interpersonal relationships; to empirically examine the extent to which these tactics are general or specific across different relationship types, including romantic partners, friends, and parents; and to explore the associations between the use of manipulation tactics and the Big Five personality traits. Twelve distinct manipulation tactics were identified through separate factor analyses of two instruments derived from different data sources. These included six tactics Charm, Reason, Coercion, Silent Treatment, Debasement, Regression, and six additional tactics: Responsibility Invocation, Reciprocity, Monetary Reward, Pleasure Induction, Social Comparison, and Hardball (the latter encompassing threats, deception, and aggression). Personality traits were assessed using three sources of data: self-reports, spouse reports, and evaluations by independent interviewers. The findings revealed consistent associations between personality dimensions and manipulation strategies. Specifically, Surgency was linked to Coercion and Responsibility Invocation; Desurgency to Debasement; Agreeableness to Pleasure Induction; Disagreeableness to Coercion; Conscientiousness to Reason; Emotional Instability to Regression; and Intellect-Openness to Reason.
In popular psychology Harriet B. Braiker Harriet B. Braiker identified the following ways that manipulators
control their victims, with some of them including
positive reinforcement, which includes
praise,
superficial charm, superficial
sympathy (
crocodile tears), excessive
apologizing or forced laugh or smile,
negative reinforcement which involves removing one from a negative situation as a reward,
gaslighting,
punishing the victim,
emotional blackmail, and
guilt tripping.
George K. Simon According to psychology author
George K. Simon, successful psychological manipulation primarily involves the manipulator: • Concealing
aggressive intentions and behaviors and being affable. • Knowing the psychological
vulnerabilities of the victim to determine which tactics are likely to be the most effective. • Having a sufficient level of ruthlessness to have no qualms about causing harm to the victim if necessary. Simon states that manipulative individuals may use a variety of deceptive techniques to exert control or avoid accountability. One such method is
lying by commission, where someone deliberately makes a false statement or provides misleading information with the intent to deceive. This involves actively stating something untrue rather than simply omitting the truth. Manipulative tactics also include
lying by omission, pretending to be in
denial, where the manipulator refuses to admit any wrongdoing,
rationalization, in which the manipulator justifies inappropriate behavior with seemingly logical excuses,
selective inattention/selective attention, and
diversion, which is a tactic in which the manipulator avoids giving a direct answer and instead steers the conversation toward a different topic.
Martin Kantor Kantor advises in his 2006 book
The Psychopathology of Everyday Life: How Antisocial Personality Disorder Affects All of Us that vulnerability to
psychopathic manipulators can be due to being too dependent on others, having a lack of maturity, being naïve, impressionable, trusting, impulsive, altruistic, or greedy. ==Assessment tools==