Wilkinson was a volunteer assistant coach at her alma mater
Tennessee Volunteers. while leading their under-20 and under-17 programs. In February 2021, Wilkinson was appointed as assistant manager of the
England women's national team with
Hege Riise in charge. Riise and Wilkinson also coached the
Great Britain women's Olympic team in 2021. In November 2021, Wilkinson was named head coach of
Portland Thorns FC of the
National Women's Soccer League (NWSL). She led the team to a second-place finish in the regular season, followed by winning the
2022 NWSL Championship 2–0 over the
Kansas City Current. Despite the on-field success, Wilkinson chose to resign. She and a player had self reported to HR an interest in a relationship. A review concluded that Wilkinson did not violate any team or league policies, and no legal wrongdoing or misconduct had occurred, yet she chose to leave the team stating she felt she may have lost the team's confidence. Wilkinson left her role in December 2022. That player,
Emily Menges, and Wilkinson are now married. Wilkinson was named as head coach of
Wales in February 2024. Having entered Euro 2025 as the lowest-ranked team in the tournament, under Wilkinson's coaching Wales exited in the group stage following three defeats but received praise for their performance with limited resources, with the
Minister for Culture, Skills and Social Partnership,
Jack Sargeant, saying "Qualifying for a first major women's tournament is an incredible feat by this fantastic group of players. I am incredibly proud of all the team has achieved". ==Personal life==