Soon after his return he married Mary Lucas, daughter of the rector of
Edith Weston in Rutland. Over the next eighteen years they had ten children, five sons and five daughters. His eldest son
Robert Hamond Elwes was the young lieutenant who met a glorious death at the
Battle of Laing's Nek, South Africa, in 1881. His last cry of "
Floreat Etona!" as he led the charge was immortalized in the
Royal Academy painting of that title by
Lady Butler. Following the death of the eldest son, the second son Arthur Elwes (1858-1907) inherited the Congham estate. The third son Gervase (1860-1895) was a tea and coffee planter in the Far East. The fourth son Richard (Dick) (1866-1841) ran the Elwes family tea estates at
Kituldeniya in
Ceylon and the youngest son Hugh (1869-1882) died whilst at school at
Hunstanton. Of the five daughters, all of whom were talented watercolour painters, Evelyn (1852-1940) never married, Susan (1853-1934) married
Gustavus Talbot who became Member of Parliament for
Hemel Hempstead, and Milly (1855-1915) married
Sir William ffolkes of neighbouring Hillington. Ysabel (1859-1934) married Henry Birkbeck of Westacre and in the 1930s created a village industry, Westacre Doll's House furniture, which was sold in the
Burlington Arcade in London. The youngest daughter, Violet, inherited her father's talent and enthusiasm for travel, painting and sketching as she travelled to visit her brother in Ceylon and thence to
Malaya,
Burma and
Indonesia. Violet Elwes became the first white woman to visit
Lombok, Indonesia, all recorded in her sketch books and her diaries. == Second world tour ==