, 1953 Sadness is a common experience in childhood. Sometimes, sadness can lead to
depression. Some families may have a (conscious or unconscious) rule that sadness is "not allowed", but
Robin Skynner has suggested that this may cause problems, arguing that with sadness "screened off", people can become shallow and
manic. Pediatrician
T. Berry Brazelton suggests that acknowledging sadness can make it easier for families to address more serious emotional problems. Sadness is part of the normal process of the child separating from an early symbiosis with the mother and becoming more independent. Every time a child separates a little more, he or she will have to cope with a small loss. If the mother cannot allow the minor distress involved, the child may never learn how to deal with sadness by themselves.
Margaret Mahler also saw the ability to feel sadness as an emotional achievement, as opposed for example to warding it off through restless hyperactivity.
Donald Winnicott similarly saw in sad crying the psychological root of valuable musical experiences in later life. == Neuroanatomy ==