Bixby Smith was married and divorced twice. In 1896, she married Arthur Maxson Smith. With her inherited wealth, she financed Arthur's graduate divinity school studies at the
University of Chicago and
Harvard on his way to becoming a Unitarian minister. In 1900, they moved to Hawaii for two years when Arthur was appointed the head of Honolulu's
Oahu College and
Punahou School. They returned to the mainland as a result of Arthur's liaisons with Oahu College students and moved to
Claremont, California, where Arthur taught philosophy at
Pomona College from 1904 to 1909. They commissioned architect Arthur B. Benton to build them a 14-room mansion on 20 acres directly across the street from the campus. In 1909, when Bixby Smith discovered that her husband had been having an affair with the children's
au pair, she helped him to get a new position in northern California at the First Unitarian Church in Berkeley. Smith's life became more complicated when she got romantically involved with Paul Jordan-Smith, an interim minister at the same church, who had been divorced in Chicago three years earlier, and who was also a graduate student and instructor in the English Department at the
University of California, Berkeley. When their liaison was discovered, the English Department faculty voted not to renew his fellowship. After Bixby Smith's 1916 divorce from Arthur and marriage on March 30 of the same year to Paul, the couple moved with the children to her mansion in Claremont, which had in the meantime been turned into a school for boys by W. E. Garrison. In 1917, the school's lease ended and they began renovating the house back into a private residence, which they named Erewhon on completion. Around this time, they met and subsequently became friends with one of Bixby Smith's cousins, the photographer
Edward Weston, who made a photographic portrait of her around 1919. There are also a number of Weston photographs of bathers shot around Erewhon's indoor pool. In late 1926, the couple moved to a mansion at 4800 Los Feliz Boulevard in Los Angeles, where their dinner parties were famous for bringing members of the city's bohemian circles together with the ruling oligarchy. By early 1934, Paul had left Bixby Smith and they were divorced. From her marriage to Arthur Maxson Smith, she had five children: Arthur Jr. (known as Maxson), Bradford, Llewellyn, Roger, and Janet. Her marriage to Paul added his three children from an earlier marriage (to Tennessee-born Ethel S. Park) to the household: Isabella Lucile, Wilbur Jordan, and Ralph Wendell, who lived part of their young lives with their father and stepmother at Claremont, and the rest of the time with their mother and stepfather in Houston. ==Death and legacy==