There has been much conjecture as to the identity of the groom in this painting. The critics
Gilbert Highet and
Gustav Glück have argued that the groom is the man in the centre of the painting, wearing a dark coat and seen in profile, or the ill-bred son of a wealthy couple, seen against the far wall to the right of the bride, eating with a spoon. It has also been suggested that according to contemporary custom, the groom is not seated, but may be the man pouring out beer. According to the same custom, he may also be the man handing the plates of food to his guests from the near end of the table, wearing a red cap. In a
Freudian vein,
Rudy Rucker speculates: Some authors have even suggested that the groom is not even included in the painting. Van der Elst speculated that this could be the depiction of an old Flemish proverb:
It is a poor man who is not able to be at his own wedding. Some connect it with the biblical
Wedding of Cana. == Mystery of the "third foot"==