Umm Salama's birth name was Hind. Her father was
Abu Umayya ibn Al-Mughira ibn Abdullah ibn Umar ibn Makhzum ibn Yaqazah also known as Suhayl or Zad ar-Rakib. He was an elite member of the
Quraysh tribe, known for his great generosity, especially to travelers. Her mother was 'Ātikah bint 'Āmir ibn Rabī'ah, of the Firas ibn Ghanam branch of the
Kinana.
Marriage to Abu Salama Before her marriage to Muhammad, Umm Salama was married to
Abu Salama Abd Allah ibn Abd al-Asad, whose mother was
Barrah bint Abdul Muttalib. Abu Salama was Muhammad's foster brother and one of his close
companions. Umm Salama bore with Abu Salama four children: Salama, Umar, Zaynab and Ruqayyah.
Conversion to Islam Umm Salama and her husband Abu Salama were among
the first who converted to Islam. Umm Salama recounted this story: Abu Salama made the trip to
Medina alone, leaving his wife and child in Mecca. After some time, Umm Salama was permitted by the Quraysh to leave Mecca, and was given her son back by her husband's tribe. With her son, she completed the hijra and was reconnected with her husband.
Death of Abu Salama During her marriage to Abu Salamah, Umm Salamah (in a story related by Ziyad ibn Abi Maryam) is said to have asked her husband to make agreement that when either of them died, the other would not remarry. However, in this tradition, Abu Salamah responded by instructing Umm Salamah to remarry after his death. He then prayed, "O God, provide Umm Salamah after me with a better man than me who will not grieve her or injure her!" During the
Battle of Uhud (March 625), Abu Salamah was severely injured. While Abu Salamah was dying due to these wounds, he recalled a story to Umm Salamah involving a message he had heard from Muhammad: "I heard the Messenger of God saying, 'Whenever a calamity afflicts anyone he should say, "Surely from God we are and to Him we shall certainly return."' And he would pray, 'O Lord, give me in return something better from it which only You, Exalted and Mighty can give'". This traditional story has been transmitted with various differences, but the fundamental principles of the hadith remain intact. Her husband eventually died from the wounds he received in the Battle of Uhud.
Abu Bakr and then
Umar asked to marry her, but she declined. Muhammad himself then proposed to Umm Salama. She initially hesitated, stating, "O Messenger of Allah, I have three characteristics. I am a woman who is extremely jealous and I am afraid that you will see in me something that will anger you and cause Allah to punish me. I am a woman who is already advanced in age and I am a woman who has a young family." However, Muhammad appeased each of her concerns, "Regarding the jealousy you mentioned, I pray to
Allah the Almighty to let it go away from you. Regarding the question of age you have mentioned, I am afflicted with the same problem as you. Regarding the dependent family you have mentioned, your family is my family." ==Muhammad era==