While the use of unity candles within the marriage rite has become widespread, it is a recent tradition and not explicitly part of the churches'
apostolic tradition; therefore, the practice is prohibited in some churches. It is advisable that couples and their
wedding planner should always check with the pastor before including the ceremony in their order of service.
Catholic church weddings The Unity Candle Ceremony is not part of the Catholic Wedding Ceremony. Catholic Tradition, instead, sees the regular reception of the
Holy Eucharist as the heart of Christian Unity. The recently updated
Catholic Rite of Marriage does not include any provisions for the Unity Candle Ceremony. For this reason, many parishes do not allow its inclusion in the ceremony. While the US Conference of Catholic Bishops has not explicitly prohibited the use of the unity candle in the marriage rite, neither has it encouraged the practice. The Conference has noted that the policies of most dioceses do not prohibit this custom but many suggest that it be done at the reception since the
Rite of Marriage already has abundant symbols of unity. The analysis of the Bishops regarding unity candles concludes by indicating that if the unity candle is permitted, the couple should light their individual candles from the
paschal candle, the individual candles should not be extinguished and the unity candle should not be placed on the altar. By following this direction, the lighted candles can then be seen as a way of emphasizing the couple's union in the
sacramental and
vocational nature of their marriage.
Anglican church weddings The Candle Ceremony is not part of the
Anglican wedding ceremonies, although it may be allowed at the discretion of the pastor.
Mixed Marriages and the Unity of Baptism In the
Sacred Tradition of the Catholic Church, a marriage is sacramental in nature when the couple are both baptized Christians. This fact can help to give a more Christian interpretation of the Unity Candle, especially in a mixed marriage between a Catholic and a Christian of another Tradition. It is desirable at a Catholic Wedding for Holy Communion to be distributed. However, given that Holy Communion is not encouraged at a mixed Wedding, where one of the spouses together with a large part of the congregation is not Catholic, the use of a Unity Candle might be employed as a sign of the baptismal unity of the couple. Since in the rite of baptism, the lighted
Paschal Candle and a smaller candle plays an important symbolic part. In the baptism rite, the Paschal Candle is placed near the font. After the person has been
baptized with water, another smaller candle is lit by a Godparent from the flame of the Paschal Candle and given to the newly baptized as a sign that they have received the "light of Christ". They are instructed to keep the "flame" they have received to "keep burning brightly" until the return of the Lord (
Parousia). This call to vigilance is a reference to the discipleship nature of baptized Christians who are called to
evangelize through their
vocational calling. The fact that each of the couple shares the same light signifies the unitive nature of their Christian vocation. St. Paul expresses the evangelizing nature of Christian marriage in his letter to the Ephesians 5:22-33. He says "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord" and "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" == References ==