According to
Dally Messenger and
Alain de Botton, in most Western countries the values and ideals articulated in both church and
civil ceremonies are generally similar. The difference is in what Messenger calls the "supernatural infrastructure" or de Botton the "implausible supernatural element". Most religions claim some extra advantage conferred by the deity, e.g., Roman Catholics believe that through the words of
consecration in the
mass ceremony, God himself becomes
actually present on the altar. Both religious and civil ceremonies share the powerful psychological, social and cultural influences which all ceremony seeks to attain. The style of music played, words used, other components and the structure vary.
Shared traditions As
Edward Schillebeeckx writes about the
marriage ceremony, there are a number of ancient traditional elements in both church and civil ceremonies in the western world. Key ceremonies date from the pre-Christian Roman and Greek times, and their practices have continued through the centuries. For example, from pre-Christian Roman times in the marriage ceremony, we inherit
best men and
bridesmaids, processions, signing of the contract, exchange of
rings and the
wedding cake.
Sharing non-supernatural content Writer and philosopher de Botton maintains
atheists should appropriate many of the useful insights, artistic treasures and symbolism inspired by religion. He argues that the secular world can also learn from the religions the importance of community and continuity. Messenger agrees, and points out that the success of
civil celebrants in Australia has been partly due to their espousing of these principles, both in theory and practice, since 1973. ==History of secular ceremony==