Young recorded in her autobiography that she was courted by Henry Bailey Jacobs when she was eighteen years old. During this time,
Joseph Smith also taught her about plural marriage in private conversations; he proposed that she become his plural wife on at least three different occasions. Young declined the proposals out of her respect for
Emma Smith and for traditional Christian monogamy, and because such a union would require secrecy. She and Smith were married on October 27, 1841. Her brother
Dimick performed the ceremony. By that time, Joseph was married to six other women: Emma Smith,
Fanny Alger, Louisa Beaman, Lucinda Pendleton Morgan, Nancy Marinda Johnson Hyde, and Clarissa Reed Hancock. when she married Smith. It is not clear when Jacobs was made aware of the wedding to Smith; he did, however, believe in Smith's prophetic counsel. to justify her subsequent marriages to Smith and later to Brigham Young, evidence from her diaries suggests this assertion is unfounded. Because she believed him to be God's chosen leader, she consented when Young, 20 years her senior, claimed he acted as Smith's proxy and proposed they be married for time (as many other members of the
Quorum of the Twelve did with Smith's other plural wives). Brigham was united "for time" with Zina on February 2, 1846, and, at the same time, she was re-sealed to Smith for eternity. Biographer Todd Compton believed that this move supported the interpretation that Zina at this time "began to live openly as Brigham's wife". What is certain is that Henry Jacobs, upon his return, was brought before a church council for his role in performing marriages uniting multiple women to William W. Phelps in England without authorization. Phelps was excommunicated. Henry was "silenced" for performing the marriages. "It was decided in Council that if a man lost his wife He was at liberty to marry again whare He pleased and was Justifyed." arriving in the
Salt Lake Valley in September 1848. In Utah Territory, she would raise her two sons from Jacobs, her daughter, and the four children of Brigham Young and Clarissa Maria Ross Young, her sister-wife who had died unexpectedly. She relied heavily upon kinship ties to her brothers and sister for the rest of her life.
Relationship to polygamy In order to understand Young's decisions regarding plural marriage, it is pivotal to examine her relationship to the practice of polygamy. Though initially she struggled to understand the morality of the practice, she came to accept it—not because she found virtue in the practice itself, but because it came from Joseph Smith, and he was the prophet. Her "unwavering obedience and unquestioning faith" ultimately determined her decision to be married to Smith and later to Brigham Young. In later life, Zina Young commented that women in polygamous relationships "expect too much attention from the husband and ... become sullen and morose". She explained that "a successful polygamous wife must regard her husband with indifference, and with no other feeling than that of reverence, for love we regard as a false sentiment; a feeling which should have no existence in polygamy". She came to rely primarily on relationships with kin and other women in the community for support and friendship. == Civic leadership and church service ==