Confucianism provided a framework which judged individuals by their faithfulness and adherence to
social norms dictated by ancient customs. Men were evaluated according to how well they fulfilled their
social positions as husbands, fathers, sons or servants. Correspondingly, women were valued based on their conduct as wives, mothers and daughters. In Chinese Confucian society, a woman's identity is subordinated and she is barely recognized as a person.
Confucian conceptions of
filial piety has been focused on preserving the traditional role of the father as the primary leader and decision maker of the family. In the hierarchy of traditional Chinese cultural family life, the father and sons take prominence over the mother and daughters. A cliché of
classical texts, which is repeated throughout the tradition, is the familiar notion that men govern the outer world, while women govern the home.
Mencius outlined the
three subordinations. A woman was to be subordinate to her father in youth, her husband in maturity, and her son in old age. Familial relationships are prefixed, and family lifestyles and behaviors are constrained by social norms. In the
Han dynasty, the female historian
Ban Zhao wrote the
Lessons for Women, advice on how women should behave. She outlines the
four virtues women must abide by: proper virtue, proper speech, proper countenance, proper merit. The "three subordinations and the four virtues" is a common four-character phrase throughout the imperial period. As for the historical development of Chinese patriarchy, women's status was highest in the
Tang dynasty, when women played sports (polo) and were generally freer in fashion and conduct. Between the Tang and Song dynasties, a fad for little feet arose, and from the
Song dynasty onwards
foot binding became more and more common for the elite. In the
Ming dynasty, a tradition of virtuous widowhood developed. Widows, even if widowed at a young age, would be expected not to remarry. Their virtuous names might be displayed on the arch at the entrance of the village.
Influence in contemporary China For Chinese women, discovering
personhood and
kinship is challenging because Confucian culture can be an obstacle. Confucianism highlights the ideal of "men manage outside; women manage inside" (), reflecting female subordination by encouraging women to remain in the household while their husbands are the breadwinners in the outside world. According to Wang's 2012 article, "Goodbye Career, Hello Housekeeping", "80 percent of husbands in China hope their wives will become full-time
homemakers" to stabilize their marriage and take care of their families. Under the Confucian influence, it has been the norm for women to quit their outside job to fulfill their obligations as wives while men remain in control outside the household and remain in their profession. It is rare in Chinese society to challenge the idea of women sacrificing their professional career, because Chinese society has a "relative[ly] ambiguous boundary between public and private spheres". This ambiguity may be a vital obstacle to gender equality. A women's sense of self in Chinese society includes her husband, her inner circle and her family by marriage, broadening (and complicating) her definition of personhood. Women's dedication and sacrifices are justified by a societal norms and a Confucian culture which increase female subordination. According to Chinese
anthropologist Fei Xiaotong, "Sacrificing the family for one's own interests, or the lineage for the interests of one's household, is in reality a formula, with this formula, it is impossible to prove that someone is acting selfishly". Men are in an advantageous position, since this differential mode of association legitimizes women's sacrifice of their professional career as a normal social pattern for the benefit of the family; a husband's preference for his wife to stay home while he keeps his career is not seen as selfishness. Male selfishness is justified by the differential mode of association which "drives out
social consciousness". Although both genders face strong pressure to be
married, women who remain unmarried past the age of 25 are shamed by state media with the label
"leftover women". In addition, foot binding and arranged marriages have been virtually eradicated. There is also the issue of forced abortions in China, especially for
sex selection purposes; authorities have been accused of giving the women virtually no control over their bodies in this area. Traditional norms regarding favoring the grandmother on the father's side persisted until after the
Chinese Communist Party's victory in the
Chinese Civil War. This traditional preference for the paternal grandmother was reflected in the word referring to the paternal grandmother (
zumu) and the maternal grandmother (
waizumu, meaning "outside grandmother"). Since the founding of the People's Republic of China, paternal and maternal grandmothers enjoy equal status. ==Family pressure and marriage==