Kasturba was born on 11 April 1869 to Gokuladas and Vrajkunwerba Kapadia. The family belonged to the
Modh Bania caste of
Gujarati Hindu tradesmen and were based in the coastal town of
Porbandar. In May 1883, 14-year-old Kasturba was married to 13-year-old
Mohandas in a
marriage arranged by their parents. Recalling the day of their marriage, her husband once said, ''"As we didn't know much about marriage, for us it meant only wearing new clothes, eating sweets and playing with relatives."'' However, as was the prevailing tradition, the adolescent bride was to spend the first few years of marriage at her parents' house, and away from her husband. Writing many years later, Mohandas described with regret the lustful feelings he felt for his young bride,
"even at school I used to think of her, and the thought of nightfall and our subsequent meeting was ever haunting me." At the beginning of their marriage, Mohandas was also possessive and manipulative; he wanted the ideal wife who would follow his command. Kasturba became pregnant at the age of 17. The first child was born prematurely and did not survive the first year. Although their other four sons survived to adulthood, Kasturba never fully recovered from the death of her first child. Mohandas decided to go to London to study and departed in 1888, soon after their second child was born, a son named
Harilal. Kasturba remained in
India. Mohandas returned from London in 1891, and in 1892 Kasturba gave birth to another son,
Manilal. Unable to find a successful career in India, Mohandas left for South Africa in 1893, once again leaving behind Kasturba and his children. In 1896 the family joined Mohandas in
South Africa. In 1906, Mohandas took a vow of chastity, or
brahamacharya. Kasturba's relatives also insisted that the greatest good was to remain and obey her husband, the
Mahatma. ==Political career==