Monette was born in
Lawrence, Massachusetts, and graduated from
Phillips Academy in 1963 and
Yale University in 1967. The rigid social confines of his suburban, middle-class upbringing placed Monette in a position where life in
the closet seemed to be the only option. For the majority of Monette's childhood, he felt suffocated and alienated by the strict, religious atmosphere in which he was raised. Monette would later describe this life in the closet as hindering his personal development as a child, as he was forced to deny a part of his identity that was seen as sinful by everyone around him. He described his youth in the closet as an ‘internal exile', an ‘imprisonment', and claimed that closeted life equates to ‘the gutting of all our passions till we are a bunch of eunuchs.' Conflicted about his
sexual orientation, he moved to
Boston, Massachusetts, where he taught writing and literature at
Milton Academy. In 1978, he moved to
West Hollywood with his romantic partner, lawyer Roger Horwitz (November 22, 1941 – October 22, 1986). He wrote and published several novels during this time period, starting with
Taking Care of Mrs. Carroll in 1978, which featured a gay protagonist. Monette himself later described the books he produced in this time period "glib and silly little novels." His more serious work came later in his life and was largely driven by his experiences with AIDS. == Notable works ==