Early relationship During the war, the King suggested appointing palace aides who were highly qualified men from the military rather than relying solely on aristocrats. Told that a handsome war hero had arrived, the princesses met
Peter Townsend, the new equerry, on his first day at Buckingham Palace in 1944; Elizabeth reportedly told her 13‑year‑old sister, "Bad luck, he's married". A temporary three‑month assignment from the RAF became permanent. The King and Queen were fond of Townsend; the King is said to have regarded the calm and efficient war veteran as the son he never had. He may also have been aware of Margaret's early infatuation with the non‑titled and non‑wealthy Townsend, reportedly observing the courtier reluctantly obey her instruction to carry her up the palace stairs after a party. Townsend was so frequently near Margaret that gossip columnists overlooked him as a potential suitor. When their relationship began is unclear. Margaret told friends she fell in love with him during the 1947 South Africa tour, where they often went riding together. Her biographer
Craig Brown recorded that, according to a
National Trust curator, Townsend requested the bedroom next to hers during a trip to Belfast in October 1947. In November 1948, they attended the inauguration of
Queen Juliana of the Netherlands. In later life, Townsend admitted that there was an attraction between them at this point, though neither acknowledged it to the other. Soon afterwards, he discovered that his wife,
Rosemary was involved in an extramarital affair, which ended. Contemporary anecdotes about their closeness then faded until late 1950, when their friendship appears to have rekindled, coinciding with Townsend's appointment as Deputy Master of the Household and the breakdown of his marriage. From spring 1951, several accounts described a growing romantic attachment. A footman recalled how the King diverted the pair's picnic plans, adding that whatever the King and Queen knew about the developing relationship, most royal staff noticed it as it was obvious to them. Townsend said that his love for Margaret began at Balmoral in 1951, and remembered an incident that August when the princess woke him from a nap after a picnic lunch while the King watched, suggesting the King was aware. Townsend and his wife separated in 1951, a fact noticed by the press by July. Margaret was grief-stricken by
her father's death and was prescribed sedatives to help her sleep. Of her father she wrote, "He was such a wonderful person, the very heart and centre of our happy family." She was consoled by her deeply held Christian beliefs, sometimes attending church twice daily. She resumed attending events with her family in April and returned to royal engagements and social appearances when official mourning ended in June. American newspapers noted her increasing vitality and speculated that she must be in love. With the widowed Queen Mother, Margaret moved out of Buckingham Palace and into
Clarence House in May 1953, while the new queen and her family moved into Buckingham Palace. After George VI's death, Townsend was appointed
Comptroller of the
Queen Mother's household. In June 1952, the estranged Townsends hosted Margaret, Elizabeth, and Philip, at a cocktail party at their home. A month later, Rosemary Townsend and her new partner John de László, attended the
Royal Windsor Horse Show. It is thought the romance between Margaret and Townsend began around this time. The first reports that they wished to marry appeared in August 1952, though such stories remained rare. The Townsends' divorce in November received little coverage in Britain but more detailed reporting abroad. After the divorce was finalised in December 1952, rumours about Townsend and Margaret spread more widely; the divorce, combined with their shared grief over the King's death, probably brought them closer within the privacy of Clarence House, where Margaret had her own apartment.
Marriage proposal Private Secretary to the Queen
Sir Alan Lascelles wrote that Townsend told him he had asked Margaret to marry him shortly before Christmas 1952. Other sources place the proposal in February or April 1953. He was 15 years her senior and had two children from his previous marriage. Margaret accepted and informed her sister, the Queen, whose consent was required under the
Royal Marriages Act 1772. During the abdication crisis, the Church of England had refused to countenance the remarriage of the divorced.
Queen Mary had recently died, and, after the
coronation of Elizabeth II, the new queen planned to tour the Commonwealth for six months. She told her sister, "Under the circumstances, it isn't unreasonable for me to ask you to wait a year", and to keep the relationship secret until after the coronation. on 2 June 1953. Margaret can be seen fourth from right, exactly next to the boys in black. Although foreign media speculated on Margaret and Townsend's relationship, the British press did not. After reporters saw her plucking fluff from his coat during the coronation on 2 June 1953"I never thought a thing about it, and neither did Margaret", Townsend later said; "After that the storm broke"
The People first mentioned the relationship in Britain on 14 June. With the headline "They Must Deny it NOW", the front-page article warned that "scandalous rumours about Princess Margaret are racing around the world", which it insisted were "of course, utterly untrue". The foreign press believed that the
Regency Act 1953which made Prince Philip regent instead of Margaret on the Queen's deathhad been enacted to allow Margaret to marry Townsend, but as late as 23 July most British newspapers, except the
Daily Mirror did not discuss the rumours. Acting Prime Minister
Rab Butler asked that the "deplorable speculation" cease, without naming Margaret or Townsend. The constitutional crisis caused by the proposed marriage was public. The Queen was advised by Lascelles to post Townsend abroad, but she refused and instead transferred him from the Queen Mother's household to her own, although he did not accompany Margaret as planned on a tour of Southern Rhodesia. Churchill personally approved of "a lovely young royal lady married to a gallant young airman", but
Clementine Churchill reminded him that he had made the same mistake during the abdication crisis. The Cabinet refused to approve the marriage, and
Geoffrey Fisher, Archbishop of Canterbury, did not support Margaret marrying a divorced man; opponents argued that the marriage would threaten the monarchy as Edward VIII's had. The
Church of England Newspaper stated that Margaret "is a dutiful churchwoman who knows what strong views leaders of the church hold in this matter", while the
Sunday Expresswhich had supported Edward and Wallisasked, "IF THEY WANT TO MARRY, WHY SHOULDN'T THEY?". Churchill discussed the matter at the
1953 Commonwealth Prime Ministers' Conference held alongside the coronation. Under the
Statute of Westminster 1931, Dominion parliaments would also need to approve any Bill of Renunciation altering the line of succession. The Canadian government stated that altering the line twice in 25 years would harm the monarchy. Churchill informed the Queen that both his Cabinet and the Dominion prime ministers opposed the marriage, and that Parliament would not approve a union unrecognised by the Church of England unless Margaret renounced her rights to the throne. Philip was reportedly the most opposed to Townsend within the royal family, while Margaret's mother and sister wanted her to be happy but could not approve the marriage. Besides Townsend's divorce, two major difficulties were financial and constitutional. Margaret did not possess her sister's large fortune and would need her £6,000 annual
civil list allowance plus the additional £15,000 Parliament had provided for her upon a suitable marriage. She did not object to being removed from the line of succession, as the death of Elizabeth and all her children was unlikely, but parliamentary approval for the marriage would be difficult and uncertain. At 25, Margaret would no longer require the Queen's permission under the 1772 Act; after notifying the
Privy Council, she could marry in one year unless Parliament intervened. Churchill told Elizabeth, however, that if one could easily leave the line of succession, another could easily enter it, which he considered dangerous for a
hereditary monarchy. Elizabeth told the couple to wait until 1955, when Margaret would be 25, avoiding the Queen having to publicly disapprove of her sister's marriage. Lascelleswho compared Townsend to
Theudas "boasting himself to be somebody"hoped that separating the pair would end the romance. Churchill arranged for Townsend's assignment as
air attaché at the British Embassy in Brussels; he was sent on 15 July 1953, before Margaret's return from Rhodesia on 30 July. The assignment was so sudden that the British ambassador learnt of it from a newspaper. Although Margaret and Townsend knew of his new post, they had reportedly been promised a few days together before his departure.
Press coverage For two years, press speculation continued. In Brussels, Townsend only said that "The word must come from somebody else". He avoided parties and being seen with women. With few duties (the sinecure was abolished after him), Townsend improved his French and horsemanship. He joined a Belgian
show jumping club and rode in races around Europe. Margaret was told by the Church that she would be unable to receive
communion if she married a divorced man. Three quarters of
Sunday Express readers opposed the relationship, and
Mass-Observation recorded criticism of the "silly little fool" as a poor example for young women who emulated her. Other newspaper polls showed popular support for Margaret's personal choice, regardless of Church teaching or government. Ninety-seven per cent of
Daily Mirror readers supported marriage, and a
Daily Express editorial stated that even if the Archbishop of Canterbury was displeased, "she would best please the vast majority of ordinary folk [by finding] happiness for herself". The couple were not restricted on communicating by mail and telephone. Margaret worked with friends on charity productions of
Lord and Lady Algy and
The Frog, and publicly dated men such as Tennant and Wallace. In January 1955, she made the first of many trips to the Caribbean, perhaps to distract, and as a reward for being apart from Townsend. The attaché secretly travelled to Britain; while the palace was aware of one visit, he reportedly made other trips for nights and weekends with the princess at Clarence House—her apartment had its own front door—and friends' homes. That spring Townsend for the first time spoke to the press: "I am sick of being made to hide in my apartment like a thief", but whether he could marry "involves more people than myself". He reportedly believed that his exile from Margaret would soon end, their love was strong, and that the British people would support marrying. Townsend received a bodyguard and police guard around his apartment after the Belgian government received threats on his life, but the British government still said nothing; despite being perhaps the most famous man in the world in March 1955,
Dan Ranfurly,
Governor of the Bahamas, wondered at a press conference "Who is Peter Townsend?" Stating that people were more interested in the couple than the recent
1955 United Kingdom general election, on 29 May the
Daily Express published an editorial demanding that Buckingham Palace confirm or deny the rumours. The press described Margaret's 25th birthday, 21 August 1955, as the day she was free to marry, and expected an announcement about Townsend soon. Three hundred journalists waited outside Balmoral, four times as many as those later following
Diana, Princess of Wales. "COME ON MARGARET!", the
Daily Mirrors front page said two days earlier, asking her to "please make up your mind!". On 12 October Townsend returned from Brussels as Margaret's suitor. The royal family devised a system in which it did not host Townsend, but he and Margaret formally courted each other at dinner parties hosted by friends such as
Mark Bonham Carter. A
Gallup poll found that 59% of Britons approved of their marrying, with 17% opposed. Women in the
East End of London shouted "Go on, Marg, do what you want" at the princess. Although the couple was never seen together in public during this time, the general consensus was that they would marry. Crowds waited outside Clarence House, and a global audience read daily updates and rumours on newspaper front pages. "Nothing much else than Princess Margaret's affairs is being talked of in this country",
The Manchester Guardian said on 15 October. "NOW – THE NATION WAITS" was a typical headline. Observers interpreted Buckingham Palace's request to the press to respect Margaret's privacy—the first time the palace discussed the princess's recent personal life—as evidence of an imminent betrothal announcement, probably before the
Opening of Parliament on 25 October. As no announcement occurred—the
Daily Mirror on 17 October showed a photograph of Margaret's left hand with the headline "NO RING YET!"—the press wondered why. Parliamentarians "are frankly puzzled by the way the affair has been handled", the
News Chronicle wrote. "If a marriage is on, they ask, why not announce it quickly? If there is to be no marriage, why allow the couple to continue to meet without a clear denial of the rumours?" Why a betrothal did not occur is unclear. Margaret may have been uncertain of her desire, having written to Prime Minister
Anthony Eden in August that "It is only by seeing him in this way that I feel I can properly decide whether I can marry him or not". Margaret's authorized biographer Christopher Warwick said that the letter was evidence that her love for Townsend was not as strong as the public believed, and that she wanted only the prime minister and Elizabeth to know of her uncertainty. Margaret may have told Townsend as early as 12 October that governmental and familial opposition to their marriage had not changed; it is possible that neither they nor Elizabeth fully understood until that year how difficult the 1772 Act made a royal marriage without the monarch's permission. An influential 26 October editorial in
The Times stating that "The QUEEN's sister married to a divorced man (even though the innocent party) would be irrevocably disqualified from playing her part in the essential royal function" represented
The Establishment's view of what it considered a possibly dangerous crisis. It convinced many, who had believed that the media were exaggerating, that Margaret really might defy the Church and royal standards.
Leslie Weatherhead,
President of the Methodist Conference, now criticized the proposed marriage. Townsend recalled that "we felt mute and numbed at the centre of this maelstrom"; Elizabeth also wanted the
media circus to end. Townsend only had his RAF income and, other than a talent for writing, had no experience in other work. He wrote in his autobiography that Margaret "could have married me only if she had been prepared to give up everything – her position, her prestige, her privy purse. I simply hadn't the weight, I knew it, to counterbalance all she would have lost" for what
Kenneth Rose described as "life in a cottage on a
Group Captain's salary". Royal historian
Hugo Vickers wrote that "Lascelles's separation plan had worked and the love between them had died". Warwick said that "having spent two years apart, they were no longer as in love as they had been. Townsend was not the love of her life – the love of her life was her father, King George VI, whom she adored". More than 100 journalists waited at Balmoral when Eden arrived to discuss the marriage with Elizabeth and Margaret on 1 October 1955.
Lord Kilmuir, the
Lord Chancellor, that month prepared a secret government document on the proposed marriage. According to a 1958 biography of Townsend by Norman Barrymaine and other accounts, Eden said that his government would oppose in Parliament Margaret retaining her royal status. Parliament might pass resolutions opposing the marriage, which the people would see as a disagreement between government and monarchy;
Lord Salisbury, a
High Anglican, might resign from the government rather than help pass a Bill of Renunciation. While the government could not prevent the marriage when Margaret became a private individual after a Bill of Renunciation, she would no longer be a Counsellor of State and would lose her civil list allowance; otherwise, taxpayers would subsidise a divorced man and his sons. The Church would consider any children from the marriage to be illegitimate. Eden recommended that, like her uncle Edward and his wife Wallis, Margaret and Townsend leave Britain for several years. Papers released in 2004 to the
National Archives disagree. They show that Elizabeth and Eden (who had been divorced and remarried himself) planned to amend the 1772 Act. Margaret would have been able to marry Townsend by removing her and any children from the marriage from the line of succession, and thus the Queen's permission would no longer be necessary. Margaret would be allowed to keep her royal title and her allowance, stay in the country, and even continue with her public duties. Eden described Elizabeth's attitude in a letter on the subject to the Commonwealth prime ministers as "Her Majesty would not wish to stand in the way of her sister's happiness". Eden himself was sympathetic; "Exclusion from the Succession would not entail any other change in Princess Margaret's position as a member of the Royal Family", he wrote. On 28 October 1955 final draft of the plan, Margaret would announce that she would marry Townsend and leave the line of succession. As prearranged by Eden, the Queen would consult with the British and Commonwealth governments, and then ask them to amend the 1772 Act. Eden would have told Parliament that the Act was "out of harmony with modern conditions". Kilmuir had advised Eden that the 1772 Act was flawed and might not apply to Margaret anyway. Kilmuir estimated that 75% of Britons would approve of allowing the marriage. The August letter to Eden is evidence, Warwick said, that Margaret was aware of the government's intention to preserve her title and allowance. The decision not to marry was made on the 24th and for the following week, Margaret worked on the wording of her statement, which was released on the 31st. It is unclear what or when she was told about the government proposal, drafted on the 28th. By the early 1980s she was still protesting to biographers that the couple had been given false hope marriage was possible and she would have ended the relationship sooner had she been informed otherwise. The
Daily Mirror on 28 October discussed
The Timess editorial with the headline "THIS CRUEL PLAN MUST BE EXPOSED". Although Margaret and Townsend had read the editorial the newspaper denounced as from "a dusty world and a forgotten age", they had earlier made their decision and written an announcement.
End of relationship On 31 October 1955, Margaret issued a statement: "Thoroughly drained, thoroughly demoralized", Margaret later said, she and Townsend wrote the statement together. She refused when
Oliver Dawnay, the Queen Mother's private secretary, asked to remove the word "devotion". The written statement, signed "Margaret", was the first official confirmation of the relationship. Some Britons were disbelieving or angry while others, including clergy, were proud of Margaret for choosing duty and faith; newspapers were evenly divided on the decision. Mass-Observation recorded indifference or criticism of the couple among men, but great interest among women, whether for or against.
Kenneth Tynan,
John Minton,
Ronald Searle, and others signed an open letter from "the younger generation". Published in the
Daily Express on 4 November, the letter said that the end of the relationship had exposed The Establishment and "our national hypocrisy". Townsend recalled that "We had reached the end of the road, our feelings for one another were unchanged, but they had incurred for us a burden so great that we decided together to lay it down". The Associated Press said that Margaret's statement was almost "a rededication of her life to the duties of royalty, making unlikely any marriage for her in the near future"; the princess may have expected never to marry after the long relationship ended, because most of her eligible male friends were no longer bachelors. Barrymaine agreed that Margaret intended the statement to mean that she would never marry, but wrote that Townsend probably did not accept any such vow to him by the princess, and his subsequent departure from Britain for two years was to refrain from interfering with her life. "We both had a feeling of unimaginable relief. We were liberated at last from this monstrous problem", Townsend said. After resigning from the RAF and travelling around the world for 18 months Townsend returned in March 1958; he and Margaret met several times, but could not avoid the press ("TOGETHER AGAIN") or royal disapproval. Townsend again left Britain to write a book about his trip; Barrymaine concluded in 1958 that "none of the fundamental obstacles to their marriage has been overcome – or shows any prospects of being overcome". Townsend said during a 1970 book tour that he and Margaret did not correspond and they had not seen each other since a "friendly" 1958 meeting, "just like I think a lot of people never see their old girl friends". Their love letters are in the
Royal Archives and will not be available to the public until 100 years after Margaret's birth, August 2030. These are unlikely to include Margaret's letters. In 1959, she wrote to Townsend in response to him informing her of his remarriage plans, accusing him of betraying their vow not to marry anyone else and requesting her love letters to him be destroyed. He claimed he complied with her wishes, but kept this letter and an envelope of burned shards of the vow she had sent, eventually destroying these also. He was apparently unaware Margaret had already broken the pact by her engagement to Billy Wallace as it was not revealed until many years later. Margaret said that he looked "exactly the same, except he had grey hair". Guests said he had not really changed, and that they just sat chatting like old friends. They also found him disgruntled and had convinced himself that in agreeing to part, he and Margaret had set a noble example which seemed to have been in vain. Billy Wallace later said that "The thing with Townsend was a girlish nonsense that got out of hand. It was never the big thing on her part that people claim". ==Marriage to Antony Armstrong-Jones==