Club memberships Dwight was a member of several prominent men's clubs and historical organizations, including the
Cosmos Club, the
American Antiquarian Society, the
Massachusetts Historical Society, the Military Historical Society of Massachusetts, the
Tavern Club, and the
St. Botolph Club. In 1884, he was made an honorary member of the
Harvard College chapter of
Phi Beta Kappa Alpha.
Friendship with Henry Adams Sometime around October 1881, Dwight, then librarian of the State Department, became acquainted with American historian Henry Adams, who was researching his landmark publication,
The History of the United States of America (1801 to 1817). Adams worked with thousands of pages of original documents housed in the State Department archives and came to rely on Dwight, who was meticulous, hard working, and knew the State Department collection inside and out. Sometime around 1885, Dwight began moonlighting as a personal and literary assistant to Henry Adams. Though the exact nature of his duties are unclear, they almost certainly included proofreading and editorial work on Adams’s
History of the United States. During the summer of 1885, Dwight lived in Adams's house at 1607 H Street, facing
Lafayette Square. Dwight managed the house and its staff while Adams and his wife were on vacation in Virginia. Adams viewed Dwight as a friend rather than caretaker; for example, Adams encouraged him to make use of his wine cellar during the couple's absence. After Adams's wife died in December 1885, Dwight moved in with Adams to help him run the household and, as Dwight described in a letter to a friend, to "support his bereavement." He continued his work at the State Department while living in Adams's home for the next three years. In March 1888, Adams and Dwight traveled together to Cuba by way of Florida, where they visited friends of Adams before sailing to Cuba for a visit of two weeks. In a letter to a friend, Adams called Dwight his "companion". In Havana, the two men attended a bull fight, a
carnavale mascarade, and the opera, but ultimately found the city to be too noisy and, in Adam's opinion, a "gay ruin". Shortly after their return from Cuba, Dwight resigned from his position at the State Department Library and within a few months began working for the Adams family as their archivist in the "Stone Library" located on the Adams homestead in Quincy, Massachusetts. The Stone Library is now part of the
Adams National Historical Park and houses the personal and family papers of
John Adams,
John Quincy Adams,
Charles Francis Adams Sr.,
Henry Adams, and
Brooks Adams. During Dwight's years working in Quincy, Adams became increasingly concerned about Dwight's mental health, as documented in dozens of letters from Adams to friends and family. In 1890, he wrote to Dwight: “I am very anxious to hear that you are feeling right. I cannot believe that the trouble is beyond easy and quick treatment. These clouds vanish as quickly as they come, and some day you will wake up right. Most men and women have had the experience.” By mid-1891, anticipating both the conclusion of Dwight's duties in Quincy and the possibility that Dwight might be named Librarian of the
Boston Public Library, Adams encouraged Dwight to consider leaving the employ of his family and accept the Library job if it were offered to him. The letters of Adams to his friends during these years contain many references to Dwight's mental health and Adams’s worries about him, so that was almost certainly another reason Adams encouraged Dwight to leave: Early in 1892, Adams and his brother
Charles Francis Adams Jr. decided that the work Dwight was doing for them on the Adams family political papers would not continue past the summer. Adams would remain friendly with Dwight and his wife Sally until their deaths. He visited the Dwights in Switzerland in 1902.
Homosexuality After moving to Boston to serve the Adams family, Dwight took up residence in a gentleman's rooming house at 10 Charles Street where his lover, the writer and dramatist
Thomas Russell Sullivan, also lived. The two men were not reticent about their relationship. They entertained together, were members of the same clubs, and went out in society as a male couple. They socialized together, for example, over private dinners with Isabella Stewart Gardner and her husband
John Lowell Gardner at Boston’s
Somerset Club. Dwight corresponded quite openly with Isabella Stewart Gardner about his impulses and affairs, writing in one letter to her: In 1892, while Dwight was traveling to meet Gardner in Europe, Sullivan wrote to her about the sadness he felt during Dwight’s absence: Dwight and Sullivan were also frequently guests at W. Sturgis Bigelow's male-only nudist colony on remote
Tuckernuck Island, though membership was not strictly limited to homosexuals. In 1892, Dwight bought 121 male nude photographs by
Guglielmo Plüschow and
Wilhelm von Gloeden in Munich and bought more in London later that summer. In a letter to his friend
Charles Warren Stoddard, Dwight bragged that he had gotten the photographs through U.S. Customs without being detected, thus preventing "confiscation and imprisonment". "When you see my spoils you will comprehend my dangers", he wrote to Stoddard. In January 1896, while on his honeymoon, he visited von Plüschow’s studio in Rome. He was such a good customer that von Plüschow permitted Dwight to use the studio to take his own photographs of the models Dwight most appreciated: In another letter to her, Dwight described the breakup of an unidentified love affair, writing "...the period has come to that little romance in which I was so foolish as to indulge. You were right in your prediction. I seem to come out of it somewhat battered perhaps, & somewhat benumbed but quite patient & resigned." The Boston historian Douglass Shand-Tucci concluded that Dwight's homosexuality was one of the reasons for his hasty departure from the Boston Public Library.
Marriage to Sally Loring In November 1895, at the age of 49, Dwight married Sally Pickman Loring (1859–1913), the daughter of Congressman
George Bailey Loring of
Salem. The marriage followed a very brief courtship and was a surprise to Dwight's circle of friends, given his open homosexuality and the fact that Dwight had no known previous platonic or romantic involvement with women. Senator
Henry Cabot Lodge's wife Anna Cabot Mills Davis advised Sally not to marry Dwight after the engagement was announced because of Dwight's reputation as a homosexual. Dwight's lover Sullivan likened it to a death, writing in his journal: "To-night I dined quietly at Miss Sally Loring's with Dwight. They are to be married very soon, and pass a year in Europe. So, in this whirl of life, Love and Death go hand in hand." During the early years of their marriage, the couple lived in what was then known as "the Bradbury Estate" at
Kendal Green in Weston. Their son Lawrence Dwight (1896–1918) was born a year later in Boston, on November 6, 1896. Lawrence spent most of his youth in
Vevey, Switzerland, where his father was U.S. Consul. He graduated August 30, 1917, from the
United States Military Academy at West Point, New York. He was to have graduated from the Academy a year later in the spring of 1918, but his class finished a year early due to
World War I. Lawrence died six months later of pneumonia in
Brest, France, without having seen battle. He held the rank of Second Lieutenant at the time of his death and is buried in the
Suresnes American Cemetery and Memorial in France. == Death ==