The life cycle of the Gamit community covers three main phases of life: Birth, marriage and death.
Birth of a child There is no custom that the first delivery of the Gamit girl should be at the parents' home. Better facilities and a better place are prioritised. The Dai comes home for five days to give a bath to the new born child. On the fifth day of the birth of a child a 'Pancharo' or on sixth day 'a chhathi' is performed.
Engagement For betrothal (engagement), the boy's party goes to the girl's house. They meet and if they find the matter suitable, they decide to give 'Piyan' i.e. promise. They may also visit each other's houses to build familiarity.
Marriage Usually Tuesday or Thursday is considered better for marriage. Pandal is erected for marriage; usually near the house. The people of the community or neighbors assist with this. To invite attendees to a marriage ceremony, rice with Haldi or Kanku are placed on the threshold of a house. This is symbolic suggestion. Nowadays, this is accompanied by a printed invitation card. The marriage is performed both traditionally as well as according to
Hindu customs with a Brahmin performing it. Dinner follows marriage. This community believes in the customs of Aana,
Khandhad marriage, love marriage, to marry a sister of a wife upon the wife's death (
salivatu) or to marry a younger brother of husband, if the husband dies (
Diyarvatu),
polygamy, and
remarriage after
divorce.
Divorce No divorce in this community can be given within three years of married life and no sexual relations can be kept while the spouse is living, nor a marriage with anybody is permitted. Those who disobey this rule are liable for a Rs. 351/- fine. In case the dispute is not resolved, one can approach the court.
Remarriage A Gamit widow is permitted to remarry in the following circumstances: If a widow has a child, Rs. 32/- are to be given. All the marriages are registered in a book along with signature of both the parties.
Death If a death occurs in a Gamit family, the body is kept near a grinding stone with the head pointed north and the legs, south. The drum is played in a peculiar way to announce the death. People come and cry. A dead body can either be cremated or buried. A child's body is buried. Ambli, Babool and Tick woods are used for cremation. The person carrying the fire-pot before the funeral pyre is a special person in a village. The ornaments from the body of a dead person are removed. The dead body is taken to a river bank; the family members move around a dead body for seven times. The mouth of a dead body is cleansed with a Khakhra brush and served curd, Khichdi, wine, etc. with turned hand. Then it is kept on the death-bed which is set aflame by relatives. Then they take bath at the river or a well. After they return home from the crematorium, they sit a little distance from the deceased's house; again the 'Tur' instrument is, played. Those who went at crematorium are served with sugar and jaggery. They have also a custom of Dahodo-pari, Khatru, Barma (giving lunch after death), and offering pooja.
Speciality The marriages among Gamit are mostly in the same Gotra. The objective is to find a spouse from a known family. Astala, Mavli, and
Vaghdev are their Gods and Goddesses. On occasion, they visit their places and celebrate festivals with dance and music. ==References==