Norris became acquainted with
Buster Keaton in 1938 when she was looking to improve her
bridge game. Keaton was known as "one of the best bridge players in Hollywood", and a friend introduced her to the game at Keaton's house in
Cheviot Hills. Norris later said that she sat at Keaton's bridge game a few nights a week for over a year without interacting with her host. One time, however, she snapped back at another player who "made a nasty remark" about a card she had played, and Keaton raised his eyes and noticed her. They dated for about a year before he proposed marriage. With his independent filmmaking career taken from him, two failed marriages, most of his money gone, and a history of alcoholism, Keaton, 42 years old when they met in 1938, was quite the opposite of the pretty and popular Eleanor, then aged 19. Keaton was working at MGM as a gag writer, producing comedy routines for the
Marx Brothers and others at a salary of $200 a week. He spent his free time playing cards with friends. Though at first glance he seemed "old and sad and forbidding", Norris discovered that he was kind, gentle, and patient. She sensed that she could give Keaton what he needed: not just a wife, but "a combination valet, cook, housekeeper, bill payer, and constant reminder".
John C. Tibbetts noted in his interview with her that she possessed "the kind of sturdy independence, inner reserve and genuine caring nature that must have appealed to Buster". Friends of both Keaton and Norris warned her against the marriage; she recalled: "They said he had had enough trouble in his life without adding me; and that I should go away and leave him alone". In his autobiography,
My Wonderful World of Slapstick, Keaton wrote that his friends were more worried about him than Eleanor. But the couple went ahead and married on May 29, 1940. The couple moved into Buster's mother's home and Eleanor ran the household for the three of them. In a few years' time, Buster began supporting his sister Louise and brother Harry, along with Harry's wife and two children, who also moved in with them. Eleanor said that neither she nor Buster wanted to have children, explaining, "I figured I'd raised him and that was enough". Eleanor told Tibbetts that Buster was generally good about controlling his drinking, and that together they decided that he could have a "cocktail hour" before dinner. She said he drank two beers before dinner for the rest of his life. ==European tours==