Epistolary relationship Emily Dickinson often described her love for Susan Huntington Gilbert Dickinson. In various letters, Emily compared her love for Susan to
Dante's love for Beatrice,
Swift's for Stella, and Mirabeau's for Sophie de Ruffey, and compared her tutelage with Susan to one with
Shakespeare. Emily appears to have valued Susan's opinions about writing and reading. On Emily's "Safe in their Alabaster Chambers", Susan wrote that the first verse was so compelling that "I always go to the fire and get warm after thinking of it, but I never can again;" a few years later,
Thomas Wentworth Higginson paraphrased Emily's critical commentary, echoing Susan's –"If I read a book [and] it makes my whole body so cold no fire ever can warm me I know that is poetry..." The importance of Dickinson's relationship with Susan has widely been overlooked due to a point of view first promoted by
Mabel Loomis Todd, who was involved for many years in a relationship with Austin Dickinson and who diminished Susan's role in Dickinson's life due to her own poor relationship with her lover's wife. However, the notion of a "cruel" Susan—as promoted by her romantic rival—has been questioned, most especially by Susan and Austin's surviving children, with whom Dickinson was close. Many scholars interpret the relationship between Emily and Susan as a
romantic one. In
The Emily Dickinson Journal Lena Koski observed that "Dickinson's letters to Gilbert express strong
homoerotic feelings." She quotes from many of their letters, including one from 1852 in which Dickinson proclaims, Susie, will you indeed come home next Saturday, and be my own again, and kiss me ... I hope for you so much, and feel so eager for you, feel that I cannot wait, feel that now I must have you—that the expectation once more to see your face again, makes me feel hot and feverish, and my heart beats so fast ... my darling, so near I seem to you, that I disdain this pen, and wait for a warmer language.
In popular culture The relationship between Emily and Susan is portrayed in the film
Wild Nights with Emily and explored in the TV series
Dickinson. Both depictions were heavily influenced by the research of
Martha Nell Smith, one of the first scholars to theorize that Susan was the love of Emily's life.
Emily's death According to Dickinson scholar Martha Nell Smith, :::Susan's enactment of simple ritual for profound utterance is perhaps best displayed in the simple flannel robe she designed and in which she dressed Emily for death, laying her out in a white casket,
cypripedium and
violets (symbolizing faithfulness) at her neck, two
heliotropes (symbolizing devotion) in her hand. Besides
swaddling her beloved friend's body for burial, Susan penned Emily's obituary, a loving portrayal of a strong, brilliant woman, devoted to family and to her neighbors, and to her writing, for which she had the most serious objectives and highest ambitions. Though "weary and sick" at the loss of her dearest friend, Susan produced a piece so powerful that Higginson wanted to use it as the introduction to the 1890 Poems [indeed, it did serve as the outline for Todd's introduction to the second volume of Poems in 1891]. Susan concludes the obituary pointing readers' attentions to Emily as writer, and to the fact that her words would live on. Among her daughter Martha's papers is evidence that these same four lines were used again in a Dickinson ceremony, perhaps to conclude Susan's own funeral: ::::::Morns like these we parted;Noons like these she rose, Fluttering first, then firmer, To her fair repose. ==Publications==