Childhood Barbara Pierce was born at
Booth Memorial Hospital in
Flushing, Queens in New York City on June 8, 1925, to Pauline Pierce () and
Marvin Pierce. Her father was a businessman who worked at magazine publishers the
McCall Corporation; he descended from the Pierce family that included U.S. president
Franklin Pierce. His ancestors also included
Robert Coe, an early
Puritan colonist who founded several towns in the
New England Colonies and served as a
magistrate of colonial government. Barbara had a close relationship with her father, and she considered him a mentor in many aspects of her life. Her mother, the daughter of a
Supreme Court of Ohio justice, was a housewife who was involved in the gardening community. Barbara was the third of her parents' four children, and at times she felt overshadowed as a
middle child: her older sister Martha was well liked and modeled for
Vogue, her older brother Jimmy was a delinquent, and her younger brother Scott had a
bone cyst that led to several surgeries throughout his childhood. Barbara felt especially neglected by her mother, with whom she often argued. Noticing her mother's poor financial habits and general pessimism about her life, Barbara came to see her mother as an example to avoid, instead believing that she had to choose to be happy with what she had. She later came to understand the ordeals faced by her mother, particularly after Barbara had a sick child of her own. Pierce grew up in
Rye, New York, where she lived in relative comfort with servants assisting the family. She later described herself as a "very happy fat child". While the family lost some of their comforts during the
Great Depression, her father's successful career kept them from poverty. In her youth, Pierce was athletic and enjoyed swimming, tennis, and cycling. For the first years of her schooling, Pierce was a
public school student, attending Milton School. Insecure about her appearance as a child, she adopted a self-deprecating sense of humor and harshly judged her schoolmates. She also took on more traditionally masculine interests, such as playing football. In her teenage years, she became more popular and was often sought after as a partner in her dance classes. Pierce attended the
Rye Country Day School from seventh to tenth grade. She then attended
Ashley Hall, a boarding school in
Charleston, South Carolina, for eleventh and twelfth grade.
Courtship and marriage When Pierce was 16 and on Christmas vacation, she met
George H. W. Bush. They met at a Christmas dance at the Greenwich Country Club, when he saw her across the room and asked a friend to introduce them. After a dance together, they instead sat and talked because Bush did not know how to
waltz. They were immediately infatuated with one another, and they met again, first at a dance the following night, and then when Bush agreed to play a basketball game with her brother—a game that was attended by the entire Pierce family, who all wished to see the object of her affections. They kept a correspondence after Pierce returned to Ashley Hall, and they went on a date during their spring break. He then asked Pierce to accompany him to his senior
prom. Bush enlisted in the
U.S. Navy in 1942 after he graduated, and they saw each other on visits until the following year, when they were secretly engaged. Despite their original intention of secrecy, their families soon knew of it. Pierce graduated from Ashley Hall in 1943. Pierce briefly attended
Smith College while Bush was fighting in the
Pacific theater of World War II, but she dropped out at the beginning of her second year in anticipation of their wedding. While in college, she focused on the social and athletic aspects rather than her studies, as she already had the promise of a stable life after her wedding. To support the war effort, she worked at a nuts-and-bolts factory as a gofer. While Bush was on leave, Pierce accompanied him to his family home. She took quickly to the family, and they gave her the nickname Bar, which was derived from teasingly calling her the name of the family horse, Barsil, rather than from her own name. She retained the nickname for life. In June 1944, she feared Bush was dead after learning that
his plane was shot down, but he was soon found and rescued. Pierce married Bush at the Rye First Presbyterian Church on January 6, 1945, when she was 19 years old. The reception was held at
the Apawamis Club, where they had gone on their first date, and they had their
honeymoon in
Sea Island, Georgia. For the first eight months of their marriage, George and Barbara Bush moved around the Eastern United States, to places including
Michigan,
Maryland, and
Virginia, where George Bush's Navy squadron training required his presence. After George was discharged, they moved to
New Haven, Connecticut, and they lived in shared housing while George was attending
Yale University. Barbara decided not to return to college, instead working a part-time job on the Yale campus before focusing on having and raising children. Their first child,
George, was born on July 6, 1946.
Early married years The Bushes moved to Texas in 1948 when George graduated from
Yale, as he had accepted a job in the oil industry from a family friend. He did not consult Barbara before deciding on the move, and she did not raise any protest. The Bushes first lived in
Odessa, Texas, where Barbara sought to set up a life in which she was not subjected to her mother's criticisms or compared to her siblings. She credited this sudden lifestyle shift for prompting her to become more mature, as the distance from their families forced Barbara and George to become self-sufficient. The following year, the Bushes moved to California, where they lived in several different towns over the course of a year for George's work. While in California and pregnant with her second child, Bush learned that her mother had died in a traffic collision. To her later regret, she decided not to attend the funeral or visit her injured father in the hospital, fearing the toll that cross-country travel would take on her pregnancy. Two months later, she gave birth to her second child,
Robin. The Bushes then returned to Texas so George could start his own oil business, and they established a home in
Midland, Texas. Bush was often left alone with the children while George was away for work, sometimes for days at a time. She had her third child,
Jeb, in 1953. While living in Texas, Bush decided to convert from
Presbyterianism to her husband's denomination of
Episcopalianism. However, upon taking the necessary classes, the rector congratulated her for achieving "first-class" by becoming an Episcopalian. She was so insulted by the suggestion that members of one denomination are superior to another that she left without joining, and she thereafter attended the church without anyone noticing that she was not a member. The family life established by the Bushes was interrupted in 1953 when Robin was diagnosed with
leukemia. Against the advice of their physician, they took her to New York to get treatment. Barbara forced herself to maintain her composure throughout the ordeal, and she made a point to never cry in front of her daughter. George was unable to do so and required her support. Robin died six months later, and George then had to provide support to Barbara. She fell into a deep depression, in which she struggled to raise her two surviving children. One legend held that her hair began to whiten in her grief, though she later denied this. Her relationship with her husband and her oldest son helped her recover, as Bush felt she had to maintain herself for her family. She began to process her grief after overhearing George W. decline to play with the neighbors because his mother needed him. Bush decided that she would continue having children until giving birth to another daughter. She had three more children over the following years:
Neil in 1955,
Marvin in 1956, and
Dorothy in 1959. The Bushes drove across the country in 1957, and they found themselves interrupted or barred entry wherever they went, as they were accompanied by their black housekeeper and their black babysitter. These incidents instilled in Bush an interest in the
civil rights movement. The family moved to
Houston in 1959, where Barbara, still pregnant with Dorothy, oversaw the construction of their new home. When her son Neil was diagnosed with
dyslexia in the second grade, she developed a life-long interest in
literacy. ==Entering political life==