Roles A man or boy who took the "receptive" role in sex was variously called
cinaedus,
pathicus,
exoletus,
amasius ( young males ), concubinus (male concubine),
spint(h)ria ("analist"),
puer ("boy"),
pullus ("chick"),
pusio,
delicatus (especially in the phrase
puer delicatus, "exquisite" or "dainty boy"),
mollis ("soft", used more generally as an aesthetic quality counter to the aggressive masculinity),
tener ("delicate"),
debilis ("weak" or "disabled"),
effeminatus,
discinctus ("loose-belted"),
pisciculi, and
morbosus ("sick"). As Amy Richlin has noted, "'
gay' is not exact, 'penetrated' is not self-defined, '
passive' misleadingly connotes inaction" in translating this group of words into English. (above) kept a great number of
exoleti (see below) and
eunuchs at his disposal Some terms, such as
exoletus, specifically refer to an adult; Romans who were socially marked as "masculine" did not confine their same-sex penetration of male prostitutes or slaves,
amasius, to those who were "boys" under the age of 20. Some older men may have at times preferred the passive role. Martial describes, for example, the case of an older man who played the passive role and let a younger slave occupy the active role. An adult male's desire to be penetrated was considered a sickness (
morbus); the desire to penetrate a handsome youth was thought normal.
Cinaedus Cinaedus is a derogatory word denoting a male who was gender-deviant; his choice of sex acts, or preference in sexual partner, was secondary to his perceived deficiencies as a "man" (
vir). Catullus directs the slur
cinaedus at his friend Furius in his notoriously obscene
Carmen 16. Although in some contexts
cinaedus may denote an anally passive man a man called
cinaedus might also have sex with and be considered highly attractive to women.
Cinaedus is not equivalent to the English vulgarism "
faggot", except that both words can be used to deride a male considered deficient in manhood or with androgynous characteristics whom women may find sexually alluring. The clothing, use of cosmetics, and mannerisms of a
cinaedus marked him as
effeminate, The
cinaedus thus represented the absence of what Romans considered true manhood, and the word is virtually untranslatable into English. Originally, a
cinaedus (Greek
kinaidos) was a professional dancer, characterized as non-Roman or "Eastern"; the word itself may come from a language of
Asia Minor. His performance featured
tambourine-playing and movements of the buttocks that suggested anal intercourse.
Concubinus was likely the primary partner of the emperor
Hadrian (both pictured above), despite the fact that the latter was married Some Roman men kept a male concubine (
concubinus, "one who lies with; a bed-mate") before they married a woman.
Eva Cantarella has described this form of
concubinage as "a stable sexual relationship, not exclusive but privileged". Within the hierarchy of household slaves, the
concubinus seems to have been regarded as holding a special or elevated status that was threatened by the introduction of a wife. In a
wedding hymn, Catullus portrays the groom's
concubinus as anxious about his future and fearful of abandonment. His long hair will be cut, and he will have to resort to the female slaves for sexual gratification—indicating that he is expected to transition from being a receptive sex object to one who performs penetrative sex. The
concubinus might father children with women of the household, not excluding the wife (at least in
invective). The feelings and situation of the
concubinus are treated as significant enough to occupy five stanzas of Catullus's wedding poem. He plays an active role in the ceremonies, distributing the traditional nuts that boys threw (rather like rice or birdseed in the modern Western tradition). The relationship with a
concubinus might be discreet or more open: male concubines sometimes attended
dinner parties with the man whose companion they were.
Martial even suggests that a prized
concubinus might pass from father to son as an especially coveted inheritance. A military officer on campaign might be accompanied by a
concubinus. Like the
catamite or
puer delicatus, the role of the concubine was regularly compared to that of
Ganymede, the
Trojan prince abducted by
Jove (Greek
Zeus) to serve as his
cupbearer. The
concubina, a female concubine who might be free, held a protected legal status under
Roman law, but the
concubinus did not, since he was typically a slave.
Exoletus , said to have surrounded himself with
exoleti Exoletus (pl.
exoleti) is the past-participle form of the verb
exolescere, which means "to grow up" or "to grow old". The term denotes a male prostitute who services another sexually despite the fact that he himself is past his prime according to the ephebic tastes of Roman homoerotism. Though adult men were expected to take on the role of "penetrator" in their love affairs, such a restriction did not apply to
exoleti. In their texts, Pomponius and Juvenal both included characters who were adult male prostitutes and had as clients male citizens who sought their services so they could take a "female" role in bed (see
above). In other texts, however,
exoleti adopt a receptive position. It is impossible to say how often this happened. For even if there was a tight bond between the couple, the general social expectation was that pederastic affairs would end once the younger partner grew facial hair. As such, when Martial celebrates in two of his epigrams (1.31 and 5.48) the relationship of his friend, the centurion Aulens Pudens, with his slave Encolpos, the poet more than once gives voice to the hope that the latter's beard come late, so that the romance between the pair may last long. Continuing the affair beyond that point could result in damage to the master's repute. Some men, however, insisted on ignoring this convention. Ancient sources impute the love of, or the preference for,
exoleti (using this or equivalent terms) to various figures of Roman history, such as the tribune
Clodius, the emperors Tiberius,
Galba, Titus, and
Elagabalus,
Pathicus was a "blunt" word for a male who was penetrated sexually. It derived from the unattested Greek adjective
pathikos, from the verb
paskhein, equivalent to the Latin
deponent patior, pati, passus, "undergo, submit to, endure, suffer". A
pathicus was not a "homosexual" as such. His sexuality was not defined by the gender of the person using him as a receptacle for sex, but rather his desire to be so used. Because in Roman culture a man who penetrates another adult male almost always expresses contempt or revenge, the
pathicus might be seen as more akin to the sexual
masochist in his experience of pleasure. He might be penetrated orally or anally by a man or by a woman with a
dildo, but showed no desire for penetrating nor having his own penis stimulated. He might also be dominated by a woman who compels him to perform
cunnilingus.
Puer In the discourse of sexuality,
puer ("boy") was a role as well as an age group. Both
puer and the feminine equivalent
puella, "girl", could refer to a man's sexual partner, regardless of age. As an age designation, the freeborn
puer made the
transition from childhood at around age 14, when he assumed the
"toga of manhood", but he was 17 or 18 before he began to take part in public life. A slave would never be considered a
vir, a "real man"; he would be called
puer, "boy", throughout his life.
Pueri might be "functionally interchangeable" with women as receptacles for sex, but freeborn male minors were strictly off-limits. To accuse a Roman man of being someone's "boy" was an insult that impugned his manhood, particularly in the political arena. The aging
cinaedus or an anally passive man might wish to present himself as a
puer.
Puer delicatus , with the wreathed "erotic conqueror" and his
puer delicatus ("dainty boy").
British Museum, London. The
puer delicatus was an "exquisite" or "dainty" child-slave chosen by his master for his beauty as a "
boy toy", also referred to as ("sweets" or "delights"). Unlike the freeborn Greek
eromenos ("beloved"), who was protected by social custom, the Roman
delicatus was in a physically and morally vulnerable position. The "coercive and exploitative" relationship between the Roman master and the
delicatus, who might be prepubescent, can be characterized as
pedophilic, in contrast to Greek
paiderasteia. Funeral inscriptions found in the ruins of the imperial household under
Augustus and
Tiberius also indicate that
deliciae were kept in the palace and that some slaves, male and female, worked as beauticians for these boys. One of Augustus'
pueri is known by name: Sarmentus.
Pueri delicati might be idealized in poetry and the relationship between him and his master may be painted in what his master viewed as strongly romantic colors. In the
Silvae,
Statius composed two epitaphs (2.1 and 2.6) to commemorate the relationship of two of his friends with their respective
delicati upon the death of the latter. These poems have been argued to demonstrate that such relationships could have an emotional dimension, and it is known from inscriptions in Roman ruins that men could be buried with their
delicati, which is evidence of the degree of control that masters would not relinquish, even in death, as well as of a sexual relationship in life. Both Martial and Statius in a number of poems celebrate the freedman
Earinus, a eunuch, and his devotion to the emperor
Domitian. The beauty of the
delicatus was measured by
Apollonian standards, especially in regard to his long hair, which was supposed to be wavy, fair, and scented with perfume. The mythological type of the
delicatus was represented by
Ganymede, the
Trojan youth abducted by
Jove (Greek
Zeus) to be his divine companion and cupbearer. In the
Satyricon, the tastelessly wealthy freedman
Trimalchio says that as a child-slave he had been a
puer delicatus serving both the master and, secretly, the mistress of the household.
Pullus Pullus was a term for a young animal, and particularly a
chick. It was an affectionate word traditionally used for a boy (
puer) who was loved by someone "in an obscene sense". The
lexicographer Festus provides a definition and illustrates with a comic anecdote.
Quintus Fabius Maximus Eburnus, a
consul in 116 BC and later a
censor known for his moral severity, earned his
cognomen meaning "
Ivory" (the modern equivalent might be "
Porcelain") because of his fair good looks (
candor). Eburnus was said to have been struck by lightning on his buttocks, perhaps a reference to a
birthmark. It was joked that he was marked as "
Jove's chick" (
pullus Iovis), since the characteristic instrument of the king of the gods was the lightning bolt (see also the relation of Jove's cupbearer Ganymede to "
catamite"). Although the sexual inviolability of underage male citizens is usually emphasized, this anecdote is among the evidence that even the most well-born youths might go through a phase in which they could be viewed as "sex objects". Perhaps tellingly, this same member of the illustrious
Fabius family ended his life in exile, as punishment for killing his own son for
impudicitia. The 4th-century
Gallo-Roman poet
Ausonius records the word
pullipremo, "chick-squeezer", which he says was used by the early satirist
Lucilius.
Pusio Pusio is etymologically related to
puer, and means "boy, lad". It often had a distinctly sexual or sexually demeaning connotation.
Juvenal indicates the
pusio was more desirable than women because he was less quarrelsome and would not demand gifts from his lover.
Pusio was also used as a
personal name (
cognomen).
Scultimidonus Scultimidonus ("asshole-bestower") was rare and "florid" slang as "Those who bestow for free their
scultima, that is, their anal orifice, which is called the
scultima as if from the inner parts of whores" (
scortorum intima). Dancing was an expression of male
impudicitia.
Impudicitia might be associated with behaviors in young men who retained a degree of boyish attractiveness but were old enough to be expected to behave according to masculine norms.
Julius Caesar was accused of bringing the notoriety of
infamia upon himself, both when he was about 19, for taking the passive role in an affair with
King Nicomedes of Bithynia, and later for many adulterous affairs with women.
Seneca the Elder noted that "
impudicitia is a crime for the freeborn, a necessity in a slave, a duty for the freedman": male–male sex in Rome asserted the power of the citizen over slaves, confirming his masculinity.
Subculture Latin had such a wealth of words for men outside the masculine norm that some scholars argue for the existence of a homosexual
subculture at Rome; that is, although the noun "homosexual" has no straightforward equivalent in Latin, literary sources reveal a pattern of behaviors among a minority of free men that indicate same-sex preference or orientation.
Plautus mentions a street known for male prostitutes. Public baths are also referred to as a place to find sexual partners.
Juvenal states that such men scratched their heads with a finger to identify themselves. In his 9th satire, Juvenal describes the life of a male gigolo who earned his living servicing rich passive homosexual men.
Apuleius indicates that
cinaedi might form social alliances for mutual enjoyment, such as hosting dinner parties. In his novel
The Golden Ass, he describes one group who jointly purchased and shared a
concubinus. On one occasion, they invited a "well-endowed" young
hick (
rusticanus iuvenis) to their party, and took turns performing oral sex on him. Other scholars, primarily those who argue from the perspective of
social constructionism, maintain that there is not an identifiable social group of males who would have self-identified as "homosexual" as a community.
Marriage between males Although in general the Romans regarded
marriage as a male–female union for the purpose of producing children, a few scholars believe that in the early Imperial period some male couples were celebrating
traditional marriage rites in the presence of friends. Male–male weddings are reported by sources that mock them. Both Martial and Juvenal refer to marriage between males as something that occurs not infrequently, although they disapprove of it.
Roman law did not recognize marriage between males, but one of the grounds for disapproval expressed in Juvenal's satire is that celebrating the rites would lead to expectations for such marriages to be registered officially. As the empire was becoming Christianized in the 4th century, legal prohibitions against marriage between males began to appear. The ceremonies included traditional elements such as a
dowry and the wearing of the Roman bridal veil. In the early 3rd century AD, the emperor
Elagabalus is reported to have been the bride in a wedding to his male partner. Other mature men at his court had husbands, or said they had husbands in imitation of the emperor. Although the sources are in general hostile,
Dio Cassius implies that Nero's stage performances were regarded as more scandalous than his marriages to men. The earliest reference in Latin literature to a marriage between males occurs in the
Philippics of
Cicero, who insulted
Mark Antony for being promiscuous in his youth until
Curio "established you in a fixed and stable marriage (
matrimonium), as if he had given you a
stola", the traditional garment of a married woman. Although Cicero's sexual implications are clear, the point of the passage is to cast Antony in the submissive role in the relationship and to impugn his manhood in various ways; there is no reason to think that actual marriage rites were performed. when it was ruled that even a man who was "disreputable and questionable" (
famosus, related to
infamis, and
suspiciosus) had the same right as other free men not to have his body subjected to forced sex. The
Lex Julia de vi publica, recorded in the early 3rd century AD but probably dating from the
dictatorship of Julius Caesar, defined rape as forced sex against "boy, woman, or anyone"; the rapist was subject to execution, a rare penalty in Roman law. Men who had been raped were exempt from the loss of legal or social standing suffered by those who submitted their bodies to use for the pleasure of others; a male prostitute, an
amasius or entertainer was
infamis and excluded from the legal protections extended to citizens in good standing. As a matter of law, a
slave could not be raped; he was considered property and not
legally a person. The slave's owner, however, could prosecute the rapist for property damage. Fears of mass rape following a military defeat extended equally to male and female potential victims. According to the jurist
Pomponius, "whatever man has been raped by the force of robbers or the enemy in wartime" ought to bear no stigma. The threat of one man to subject another to anal or oral rape (
irrumatio) is a theme of invective poetry, most notably in
Catullus's notorious
Carmen 16, and was a form of masculine braggadocio. Rape was one of the traditional punishments inflicted on a male adulterer by the wronged husband, though perhaps more in revenge fantasy than in practice. In a collection of twelve anecdotes dealing with assaults on chastity, the historian
Valerius Maximus features male victims in equal number to female. In a "
mock trial" case described by
the elder Seneca, an
adulescens (a man young enough not to have begun his formal career) was gang-raped by ten of his peers; although the case is hypothetical, Seneca assumes that the law permitted the successful prosecution of the rapists. Another hypothetical case imagines the extremity to which a rape victim might be driven: the freeborn male (
ingenuus) who was raped commits suicide. The Romans considered the rape of an
ingenuus to be among the worst crimes that could be committed, along with
parricide, the rape of a female virgin, and robbing a
temple.
Same-sex relations in the military The Roman soldier, like any free and respectable Roman male of status, was expected to show self-discipline in matters of sex.
Augustus (reigned 27 BC – 14 AD) even prohibited soldiers from marrying, a ban that remained in force for the Imperial army for nearly two centuries. Other forms of sexual gratification available to soldiers were prostitutes of any gender,
male slaves,
war rape, and same-sex relations. The
Bellum Hispaniense, about
Caesar's civil war on the front in
Roman Spain, mentions an officer who has a male concubine (
concubinus) on
campaign. Sex among fellow soldiers, however, violated the Roman decorum against intercourse with another freeborn male. A soldier maintained his masculinity by not allowing his body to be used for sexual purposes. In warfare, rape symbolized defeat, a motive for the soldier not to make his body sexually vulnerable in general. During the Republic, homosexual behavior among fellow soldiers was subject to harsh penalties, including death, as a violation of
military discipline.
Polybius (2nd century BC) reports that the punishment for a soldier who willingly submitted to penetration was the
fustuarium, clubbing to death. Roman historians record cautionary tales of officers who abuse their authority to coerce sex from their soldiers, and then suffer dire consequences. The youngest officers, who still might retain some of the adolescent attraction that Romans favored in male–male relations, were advised to beef up their masculine qualities by not wearing perfume, nor trimming nostril and underarm hair. An incident related by
Plutarch in his biography of
Marius illustrates the soldier's right to maintain his sexual integrity despite pressure from his superiors. A good-looking young recruit named
Trebonius had been
sexually harassed over a period of time by his superior officer, who happened to be Marius's nephew, Gaius Lusius. One night, after having fended off unwanted advances on numerous occasions, Trebonius was summoned to Lusius's tent. Unable to disobey the command of his superior, he found himself the object of a sexual assault and drew his sword, killing Lusius. A conviction for killing an officer typically resulted in execution. When brought to trial, he was able to produce witnesses to show that he had repeatedly had to fend off Lusius, and "had never prostituted his body to anyone, despite offers of expensive gifts". Marius not only acquitted Trebonius in the killing of his kinsman, but gave him a
crown for bravery.
Sex acts describes a man with a large penis in a public bathroom. Several emperors are reported in a negative light for surrounding themselves with men with large sexual organs. The
Gallo-Roman poet
Ausonius (4th century AD) makes a joke about a male threesome that depends on imagining the configurations of group sex: "Three men in bed together: two are sinning, two are sinned against.""Doesn't that make four men?""You're mistaken: the man on either end is implicated once, but the one in the middle does double duty." In other words, a 'train' is being alluded to: the first man penetrates the second, who in turn penetrates the third. The first two are "sinning", while the last two are being "sinned against". ==Lesbianism in ancient Rome==